Why am I even bothering ..?

[ringaling]

I've posted about him before and most said get rid etc.
I last seen him Thursday night,he stayed over.
Since then he text everyday but never mentioned when I'm seeing him next.
Thursday again probably.
Anyway tonight I text saying "are you even interested,because it's me keep asking when I'm seeing you next" etc
He text saying "I am interested babe,I've just got a lot on with my mum being ill and work" etc
I replied "ok I just needed to know,if I was wasting my time"
He read it an hour ago noting back but he is on Facebook retweetinb pointless shit as per.
I'm so sick..I have feelings for him
Now I'm upset...and thinking have I ruined it

He is otherwise engaged...Not worth wasting a minute of your time love.

Wish I hadn't opened my mouth now
Should of just left things at once a week

If you feel like youre wasting your time then you are. Why force it? Youve nothing invested. Walk away.

Stupidly I've developed feelings
always seem to get feelings for those I shouldn't

Feelings pass and usually when they do you can't even remember what the fuss was about. Make this one the one where you put yourself first. It can be your example to look back on and think "I handled that well"

If once a week isn't good enough for you, but it's good enough for him, then you're not a good match.

It's not personal, it's not about you or how valuable you are as a person (I'm sure you're lovely), it's just that he's looking for something different from your 'relationship' than what you are.

The best thing you can do is acknowledge it, feel sad, then put your head up and walk away to look for someone who wants the same thing you do.

You'll just give yourself more grief if you try to pressure him to give more than he wants to, and it will be worse for your self-esteem than if you simply accept this guy isn't the one for you, and walk away.

Why are you bothering? You're self aware enough to know you're doing the chasing and he isn't that fussed. You've been on before and had advice to ditch him. So what's your problem?

What is it that makes you throw yourself at this disinterested bloke? Perhaps you should do some work on your self esteem and start looking for other things to focus on than some bloke.

I've posted about him before and most said get rid etc.

Ok at least you remember what people advised you to do, that's a start.

I last seen him Thursday night,he stayed over.

So why are you surprised that, even after the good advice, you're dishing it out to someone who couldn't care less about you. He hasn't changed.

If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got.

Why are you bothering to post again?

He's in a relationship.

He has a baby.

You need to sort yourself out.

You are the Thursday shag then ?

Get some self respect

He clearly only needs you once a week for a fuck.

The rest of the time he's happy with his Pot Noodle.

For gods sake love.

Nothing more anyone can say though. I'll say this for you, you're determined. You're gonna beat this dead horse into the ground no matter what.

Op whaf do you think will happen if you keep going with soneone who isnt that interestednin you and is lazy?

"Stupidly I've developed feelings
always seem to get feelings for those I shouldn't"

Have you asked yourself why that actually is?

You've becoming way too overinvested here and I am also wondering if you are co-dependent when it comes to relationships as well. What did you learn about relationships when growing up?

Mr Pot Noodle is not worth your time; sadly you think that he still is worth any of your time.

He's too lazy to see you more. You know that.

Is he actually taking you out on a Thursday or is he too lazy to even do that?

To answer your question I can't think of one reason why you are bothering.

Hang on, didn't I see you on conception recently? Please tell me you aren't trying to conceive with this waste of space?!

Omg you're not are you? Does he know you are 'trying for a baby?'

Jesus

Christ you're right. Unprotected sex for the last month passively trying for a baby. Only been together 2 months.

What AF posted, but in spades.

You really really need to see a counsellor.
Your feckless decision to try to get pregnant aside - he's lazy and drains your energy, you said that yourself.
You need to find out WHY you 'develop feelings' for someone who just isn't attractive or a good fit for you.
And you then need to return to the conception issue and work out WHY you think it's a good idea to try to have a baby with someone you met 10 weeks ago, and even dumped 2 weeks ago. Does he know he's trying for a baby?
I said it on your last thread but it's more urgent now - COUNSELLING.

It isnt a good idea to get pregnant Because he is a tit. You will have a terrible life. Tour child will have a life they just dont deserve. It would be incredibly selfish.

I am cringing so bad at this!
Can't believe you have had unprotected sex with him... !
You won't see it now but when you realise what a waste of space he is you will realise how silly you've been. I just want to shake you! I know we've all been in the situation we're we have liked someone more than they've liked us but to have unprotected sex is crazy!
Wake up OP!

Are you very young OP? I'm not asking to be patronising but I'm concerned about your lack of self-worth if you are throwing yourself at someone who clearly doesn't give a shit, uses you for sex and trying to get pregnant!

Please don't do it, you think a baby will make him want you and take the relationship seriously- he really, really won't. You'll be just as sad and miserable as you are now, only with a baby to care for alone too. Please take a massive step back from this waste of space and wait to meet someone who actually cares for you to start a family with

Nothing you do can change someone else'e behaviour. He is the way he is. You're banging your head against a brick wall. He is unable to be any different and you deserve happiness. If someone's actiions make you feel shit, call it a day.