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What does your DH do to make you feel guilty after you have been out for the afternoon?

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pinkbubble · 17/02/2007 19:56

Have just spent a very pleasant afternnon havig luch ot and a touch of shopping without DH and DC, get home to find him being superhusband- hes taken DC to the park, let them ride their bikes and roller blades, their meal was all cooked and cleared away and he was standing doing the ironing for the week!Anyone elses do this to them(he does do the ironing but probably 3times a year!)

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SherlockLGJ · 17/02/2007 19:57

He proabably decided you needed a break.

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pinkbubble · 17/02/2007 19:58

No just knows how my mind works!

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Gingerbear · 17/02/2007 19:58

Don't feel guilty, just revel in the fact that your DH is being an angel.
Say 'Thank you so much darling, I really needed today!'

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pinkbubble · 17/02/2007 20:00

Well I did come in all bubbly, and said that we had been out to lunch and that I had bought something for me(which is a real rarity)and he never bothered to ask where we went or what I had or what did my new trousers look like!

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bigknickersbigknockers · 17/02/2007 20:10

My DH is the same.. minus the ironing bit.
If i go anywhere without the youngest 2 of our 3 kids you can bet that when I get back the kids will have been fed, all plates and mess cleaned up, and all the other jobs that I just havent managed to do will have been done. He then has this smug look as if to say " I dont know why you make such a fuss about the house work... Its no problem.

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pinkbubble · 17/02/2007 20:15

Men, why cant he do the ironing when I am here! Plus I wasnt that late home, so was really surprised they had all been fed- I expect they will start to ask for food soon!

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divastropwantstodrop · 17/02/2007 21:07

i came back to a clean,tidy house,washed/fed kids etc when i'd been in hospital for 24 hours having my bp monitored.
i think my dp doesnt like doing so much when im here in case i moan at him for not doing it my way.oh and because i never ask him to do anything.

hunkermunker · 17/02/2007 21:09

PMSL!

It has literally never crossed my mind that I should feel guilty when I come home to a clean house, well-fed, happy, clean children and dinner for me.

I just expect it

(DH is fab - and he knows I appreciate it, shall we say )

FrannyandZooey · 17/02/2007 21:10

Gawd I wish my do would "make me feel guilty" like that

misdee · 17/02/2007 21:11

oooo when i come back aftyer an afternoon out i find the house spotless and dh in bed

colditz · 17/02/2007 21:12

That's not guilt inducing! Why the hell would you feel guilty?

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pinkbubble · 17/02/2007 21:17

Because I have been out and hes been with DC all afternoon, silly thing is if it wasnt for the fact he was doing the irining I probably wouldnt have thought twice about it but he takes an absolute age when ironing and we both know I can do it in a third off the time! I guess I always do it on a Sunday afternoon too.

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pinkchampagne · 17/02/2007 21:22

Don't feel guilty - you have nothing to feel guilty about! You had a bit of me time, and so DH has been superdad...great!
He hasn't given you a hard time at all has he?

ComeOVeneer · 17/02/2007 21:22

If I had walked back into that scene, I would have walked out again as I clearly would have been in the wrong house. The children would probably have been feed but the house would look like a bomb had hit it and the ironing?!?!?!?! Not a hope in hell. (Mind you I don't iron either )

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pinkbubble · 17/02/2007 21:27

PC he wasnt very chatty and never asked any questions about lunch and what I had bought! He just stood there doing the ironing, I made a cup of tea for us both and he just carried on, it kind of popped my bubble- perhaps I should be called flatbubble tonight!

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liquidclocks · 17/02/2007 21:29

Mine rings me when I'm out to tell me that the kids are upset - usually I can hear at least one of them crying in the background, so I rush home, then he says 'i didn't ring you so you'd come home'

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pinkchampagne · 17/02/2007 21:33

Maybe it was a good thing he didn't ask about what you had bought, as this means he is not worried about how much you have spent! (A past argument starter!)
Don't worry my dear, men don't take that much interest in what we buy, it's a male thing!

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pinkbubble · 17/02/2007 21:35

HE doesnt ring, even thou I kept checking my mobile, just incase he had rang or texted, I guess what really did it was DD2 has had flu this week and spent most of it on sofa, Its been half term and I work in a sch so its been my holiday as well and to put icing on the cake he is off to America tomorrow and wont be back until fri- so I did feel justified in having time out whilst out it was when I got back I began to feel guilty(I rarely go out and if I do then its to a friends or out (dare I admit it) bingo and Im normally home by 10. Soory to rant but I feel I need to justify myself!

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pinkbubble · 17/02/2007 21:36

PC have hidden dress in boot of car and will give it to DD tomorrow!

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pinkchampagne · 17/02/2007 21:43
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Bucketsofdynomite · 18/02/2007 09:46

He doesn't get a chance to do anything because I'm too busy yelling at him for having done nothing with the kids or house while I was out.

DetentionGrrrl · 18/02/2007 10:05

i got home yesterday to find him crawling round with DS like a loon. No housework done, but who cares

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