Scared him off

[Xmasboy]

Hi

Recently started talking to a guy through work and things seemed to going well, we met up once and had agreed to meet again. We spent all day yesterday texting and then it suddenly stopped, at this point I must confess that I send a few messages along the line of where have you gone etc. I then sent a few messages this morning and asked to meet up all I got in return was I was out last night. He has since read my other messages but not replied.

I'm made myself look desperate and needy and it's embarrassing

Ah well, we live and learn.

Well... at least you know that you made yourself look desperate and needy it would be worse if you were completely unaware.

I'd back off. If that's all it takes to scare him off then he's probably not that great.

Yes you did. It was well ott and needy, so I suggest you make no further contact whatsoever. If he's still keen he'll contact you, but you may well have scared him off. I would not have responded well on the receiving end - would you?

Yes I'm aware of my actions 😂

I'll never understand how a normally rational woman can become a little unhinged over a man

I thought he was great but obviously not meant for me

HappyBunny - no I probably wouldn't have reacted well but would have probably sent a message back saying look this is a bit Ott for me so thanks but no thanks

Don't be so hard on yourself ..it's not like you went round to his house and hid in the bushes with your night vision goggles..or did you
Honestly if he was worth it a few messages wouldn't scare him away ..see if he texts you
Don't text him anymore

Do yourself a favour next time and don't use a messenger that lets you know when the recipient has read it... Use SMS messages and think of them as throwing a message in a bottle into the sea.

I've spent days recently trying to calm a couple of female friends who were asking the same thing about guys they were messaging. Social media messaging tools that show online status, read receipts etc... are a hideous invasion of privacy and do nothing but stoke anxiety at a time when we are feeling our most vulnerable !

Ignore him for a few days. He might well be back. And then ignore him some more just to make sure.

I heard from him last night but I don't think I'm in the right place emotionally to deal with anything at the moment