Am I right to be angry??

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Hi all, am new to mums net and heard it's really good for all kinds of advice... My OH is a really big fan of sports and it's coming up to his 30th birthday so as a surprise I managed to get him ring side tickets for a boxing match ( they were not cheap) and knowing that I like boxing too I thought we could both go together and have a ball, I would of been so happy to see his face watching the famous fighters he loves close up! However when I surprised him with the tickets he didn't want to go with me but wanted find a male friend to go with, I was upset as all I wanted was for him to be happy & see his face light up and to be able to share that experience with him and make it a memory! He said I was a little sensitive when he told me he didn't want to go with me, I know it sounds petty but do I have the right to be upset over this or should I just let it go & forget about it? I understand his reason for not wanting me to go wit has him was as he thought it may have been to boisterous for me but I reassured him that I was more than happy to go and understood why he was worried but he didn't need to be. Thank you

I think YABU & he should use the ticket with whoever he wants. But then I can't think of anything worse than going to a boxing match.

So you spent £1,000 on 2 tickets?! Bloody hell. You've got more money than sense.

There's absolutely no way I would have done this without making it crystal clear that it was going to be a joint outing, ie you and him.

And I've got to ask why he thinks it's OK for you to spend £500 of your money on paying for a friend of his...

I suggest you ask him for £500. Your gift is his ticket. He can then ask whoever he wants and pay for it himself.

500 quid!!!

Ok I've changed my mind - no way does anyone pay that for a plus one.

You should be going at that price.

Combined with you specifically introducing them as "for US" I'm starting to think he's got some cheek.

Absolute ungrateful piss-taker. You bought a ticket for yourself and he wants to give it to a mate instead?! Cancel the tickets. He doesn't deserve it.

I was all set to say let him go with a mate until you said how much the tickets cost!
YANBU to want to go with him - tell his mate to pay up or jog on

Wether it was a boxing match, a football match or a ballet, if I got the tickets DH would always want to go with me, because I'm his number 1 choice. Why aren't you his? Of course we do things separately, but you got him tickets, it's weird he wants to take someone else if you said to him, I can't wait to take you boxing. My DH was 30 last month... we went to Rome. X

Does he know how much the tickets cost?? Surely he can't think it's acceptable for you to pay £500 for his mate to go?

Thank u guys for the comments I thought I may have been a little harsh on him at 1st by taking the knock over it but after now I have told him how much the tickets were and he has asked his friend to pay for his as he didn't realise how much they were.. I would never normally dream of paying that for any show but with it being a big birthday knowing he really wanted to go I tried to make it exciting for him that was all.. at least it's settled now.. his mate pays for his & he went with him as it's the boxing that's on in Manchester arena tonight .. mouseLove am not too sure why maybe he just wanted a 'boys night out' I duno he didn't say..too quick out the door! I hope the OH enjoyed Rome for his 30th it's a lovely place to go!

Do you bankroll him a lot?

500 pounds surely thats a mistake and you meant 50 pounds.

Wowzers. £500????? Are you serious. You paid that and he still wanted to take a mate? Who has mates who can casually cough up £500 2 weeks before Christmas. Are you famous???

He is being a shite. Why on earth would anyone buy two tickets for something and not think they'd be the other party going unless it was for a parent/child shared thing?

I'd be pretty pissed.

I have to say I've never spent that amount on my OH and we have been together for 12 ish years...and if I had and he wanted to go with someone else then that would have been the last I'd have to do with him.

It is weird that you not only let him go with a friend but are also planning this surprise trip as well. It really smacks of buying him off and it quite frankly odd.

How long have you been together?

I can certainly see where you were coming from OP: for one thing, I'd expect dh to know if I was interested in something, not just make random assumptions based on my genitals.

I agree with you op.

Who the hell thinks it's ok for gbe op to lay £500 for his mate to go

No way would I let him take someone else

Tell him straight you have bought HIM a ticket and paid for yourself too.
He sounds like An u grateful tossed if I'm being honest.

If he moans again, next time just buy your own ticket and buy him something which you Benefit from such As a cd of your favourite artist.

I would be very angry here.

TELL him that it was YOUR money. YOU spent it on one ticket for him and one for YOURSELF!!

TELL him that he has NO RIGHT at all to give away something of yours, and that you intend to go.

Don't let him get away with it. He can uninvite his mate. If the event hasn't already happened.

Boisterous?
Too boisterous?!
I'd actually have second thoughts about a man who thought like that

I would be ficking livid tbh. I think the fact it's a boxing match is a red herring. If we substitute boxing for gig, that cost £500, to see a band OP really likes, and she says these are tickets for us, would posters still say it's OK for him to say sorry, I don't want to go with you?

I would be taking someone else on that holiday to Barcelona too. What a fucking liberty!!

DP and I both support the same football team, there have been times when we've had to go to games separately (childcare failing etc), but if he'd bought me tickets for a big game I wouldn't tell him he wasn't coming as I know he'd love it. And if he did what your DP has done, I'd feel a bit kicked in the teeth.