Do you think this is suspicious?

[BitchQueen90]

This is not about me, I'm single. It's a post for a friend who asked me to put it here for outside opinions.

Her DP lost his phone somewhere in the house the other day and he took the day off work to find it. His excuse was he needs it for work. Friend says he doesn't use it for work and if he needed to make a call he could have borrowed a colleague's phone. It seems a bit suspicious to me as friend is currently on maternity leave so is at home most of the day. Taking a day off work seems way over the top, I feel like he wanted to stay at home because he was worried she would find the phone and see something she shouldn't. However I'm not the biggest fan of her DP so an unbiased opinion would be good.

Does anyone else think this is odd?

I think it's odd, but has anything else happened to make her suspicious?

At this time of year, you'd hope she was thinking a hidden xmas present but she thinks the opposite?

She may just have pregnancy hormones going on?

Taking a day off work does seem excessive - does it really take a whole day to look down the back of the sofa, through the trouser pockets of what you wore yesterday, under the car seat and so on?

At this time of year, it's as likely to be staying in for a delivery of something ordered online, though, and he's crap at making up excuses. Depends on him and their history, I think.

I would find it a bit odd and it would definitely make me a little suspicious as it seems a bit over the top. Are there any other behaviours that are making her suspicious?

Did he find it, if so what happened then?

I'm behaving very suspiciously with my phone at the mo because it's Christmas. Even so, my life is on that phone so I'd be frantic to find it if I lost mine.

This has to be all about context. If it's unusual for him then I'd be more suspicious.

He did find it in the end, that was the end of it. That's a good point about it being Christmas time, it may be innocent. She did find a private Instagram account he had that he hadn't told her about about a year ago. But nothing else suspicious. My reasons for disliking him are because of the way he talks to her sometimes and I believe he's emotionally abusive.

Sounds well dodgy. Dh would need his phone as he really needs it for his work but if he didn't and he took a day off work to look for it, I'd be really suspicious. And worried about your oh finding what their getting for Christmas does not warrant taking a day off!

Yes, it was set to private so she couldn't see any of the pictures.

Not in the slightest. Anyone who is in a relationship that causes them to waste energy on such trivial, non issues, needs to have a word with themselves

My first reaction to your post was that he's clearly hiding something.

But then I remembered that I mislaid my phone one evening recently and I was frantic. Our evening routine was derailed while everybody hunted for it while I became near-hysterical.

My work calendar is on it, all my Christmas shopping lists, all the photos that I've spent hours sorting out (to get the annual photo books printed for DD's grandparents), addresses for Christmas cards...all the Christmas songs that I collected for DD to listen to in the car...and I needed to call someone and her number is in my phone.

I didn't realise I'd become totally dependent on my phone to organise my life.

Anyway, it turned up after a half hour search having fallen down the side of the bed. I nearly cried with relief. And then felt very silly for getting so wound up over a phone. But I suspect if I'd lost it this morning instead of in the evening, I might have taken a sickie to look for it, given how anxious I was.

I'm not saying it's right, or indeed normal! But his behaviour doesn't necessarily mean foul play. He might just be as neurotic as me.

Badgers, have you backed up your phone now, just in case?

Ha! Funny you should say that, EBearhug, because I realised after I found it that everything important was already backed up anyway so there was never any need to panic. It just didn't occur to me at the time.

Better that way round than the other!

I would probably take the day off to look for it. Like Badgers there is a lot on there that I need. Plus if I didnt find it at home then I would have to start the faff of cancelling the sim card and changing all the access passwords for all of my accounts and passwords. I would not be able to work until I had done all of that.