Disorganised or mean?

[lizzieoak]

I have a friend who I know is interested in me (we used to have a fwb thing, but that was years ago).

I am not sure if he's just hopelessly disorganized (there are signs this could be the case) or if he's playing some mad game of trying to keep me on my toes.

He suggests going out for coffee or a drink. I say okay. We enjoy each other's company. Then at the last minute excuses reign down (he has to work, his kids are sick, his dog has a hangnail). This happens maybe 1/10 of the time. None of my other friends do this, well, not so's you'd notice.

Do men do this? How do I determine? Disorganized I can put up with. Failed attempts at manipulation, not so much!

Is 'enjoy each other's company' sex and 'at the last minute' afterwards?

Cancelling 1 in 10 times isn't such a big deal, is it? 90% reliable? You must have some extraordinarily reliable friends to compare him against - I'm not sure I'd even be counting the let downs if they amounted to 1 time in 10!

Graphista - hah! No, no sex with him nowadays. I just thought I'd mention we hang out as we like talking.

Walkacross- Jesus, really? I have one friend w a 3 year old who cancels occasionally, & a friend in health care who cancels as she works shifts, but that's about it. I honestly don't think I've cancelled on anyone in years! I call in sick to work, but not to mates.

Maybe it feels harsher as he's supposedly mad for me but then cancels more often than anyone else?

You're totally overthinking this.

I'd put my kids & dog ahead of a coffee & always will. Someone with a 90% reliability rate, who you're not in a relationship with, isn't the end of the world.

He's not game playing in the slightest. If you're at all interested, why haven't you just asked him. It's not 1953