If you were at rock bottom and life became good again... tell me your story?

[Helloyou4]

I've posted a few times recently. I feel hugely alone and as if I will never feel happy again, or meet anyone significant.

If you felt like this and it got better, will you tell me your story?

Hi Helloyou4

My story started when I was 18, life was great I met a lovely guy and we were together for 8 years, the relationship fizzled out when he moved away for work and I met someone 'new and exciting'. This relationship was awful and nearly destroyed me. Cheating, lying, drugs, drinking, emotionally abusive the works...I hit what I thought was rock bottom when I found out I was pregnant and he left me...I then found out he was back with his ex and didnt give me or my child a second thought. My baby was born prematurely and was in neo-natal, cue severe PND for me and I wanted to die. My weight dropped to 7 stones and I just went off the rails drinking etc. I was completely alone, my family all lived in different towns and I cut myself off from my old friends. It got so bad at one point my parents threatened to remove my child.

One day I woke up, pulled on my big girl pants and sorted my life out. I got in touch with old friends who fortunately forgave me for some terrible behaviour on my part and I asked my parents for help. I realised just because I had been rejected by one idiot didnt mean I was rejected by life and that my DD needed me. I bought myself a house, a car and worked full time.

It took me 4 years but eventually I got to a place where I felt complete in myself. I then met my amazing lovely husband and we got married after 6 months...when you know you know!! We have been married 6 more years and have two more DC I couldnt be happier.

For me looking back (hindsight is a wonderful thing) I cannot believe I was once in that dark place and its not somewhere Id ever want to again, but I know if I did I am capable of picking myself up and making myself happy again.

Hang in there OP...it DOES get better, maybe not tomorrow or next week but it definately does.

YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK

I was engaged at 25, living in a lovely place, due to be married on Valentines Day when he broke it off a month beforehand......he was seeing someone else. In an instant, I lost my home (and a considerable sum of money as our house skyrocketed in value but I couldn't afford to buy him out), and our friends......I hit rock bottom. But, I moved away and started again. I was 25.

I married at 41, had DD at 42 and it was then that I had to face the fact that I was married to a rampant alcoholic. I hit rock bottom for the 2nd time in my life. I found Al-Anon, crawled back up out of the pit of despair, a year later he was still drinking but I was slowly recovering and decided to divorce as his behaviour was becoming bad in front of DD because I was no longer reacting to his drinking in the same way.
I moved to the other side of the country and started again; sure, being a single parent was hard as I worked full time 12 1/2hr shifts. But I survived and 11 yrs later, I know that I don't need a man thank you very much! . I know what is and what isn't acceptable behaviour.
We can get through Anything. Believe in yourself.

Thanks for these, they've cheered me up :)

Anymore for a Tuesday afternoon? :)

Ive been there, felt as though I'd lost everything, felt that death would be a welcome relief and I was living life five minutes at a time.

But nothing lasts forever

I'm happy now, I feel joy and peace. I'm optimistic about the future.

Hang in there.

I had a crap childhood with an alcoholic father. I was sexually assaulted as a teen. I was a tearaway teen and struggled at school. Bad boyfriends. I met my ex DP when I was 19 after I had my heart broken and parents were having a horrible divorce. 2 kids quickly followed by bad debts and emotional abuse. I left him and was very low, entered 2 more much more abusive but short relationships. The last one saw me homeless. I was so scared and realised how badly I was letting down my kids.
Finally rented my own place, still here. Have a job I never thought I could get. Kids happy. I have a lovely boyfriend (early days). No serious debts. It was hard work but worth it

My post is over 17 years of my adult life by the way