Controlling, or just a twunt?

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So, DP and I were away Friday night. Long awaited birthday treat for me. We had been out for a meal, lovely evening then back to hotel.
Bottle of fizz, and cuddles. Then he says, he knew it would be the perfect time to DTD, but he didn't feel like it. He said that he hoped that I would say if I ever didn't want to do something or go anywhere?
I wasn't actually bothered about having sex. But it was a total bubble burst.

Why would he say that? And what about a bit of compromise? I've been going over it ever since.

Erm neither?!

It is NOT controlling to not want sex at ANY time. It is a bit twuntish to expect a compromise that involves someone feeling they have to do something sexual that they don't want to.

Why would that be controlling?

I didn't mean that I expect him to compromise over the sex thing. I would never expect him to do that. I mean compromise over things in general.
Maybe I'm overthinking the whole thing.

How is it controlling or him being a twunt ??? Its neither. He just said he didn't feel like sex ? No big deal

neither.
Just a guy that didnt feel like sex...

He said he didn't want sex and hoped that you would be able to say the same if you didn't want to. How is that bad? Sounds like a good thing to me. Is there more behind this?

You're being ridiculous. He didn't want sex.

Do you think he said it to sort of put you in your place OP?

Or was it said kindly?

Do you think he said it just because he knew you wanted to? That he was deliberately disappointing you and not that he was genuinely not in the mood?

There is no problem with him not wanting sex, but it does seem slightly odd that he decided that he didn't want to dtd on a special occasion like this after all the build up. .. does he have form for wrong footing you or letting you down at the last minute?