On Monday I asked my husband to leave the family home. For a number of reasons the marriage was no longer working and I was fed up of being the only one prepared to make an effort to fix it. It got to the point where I couldn't be bothered to fight for my marriage anymore, which is when I knew I should no longer stay.
On Monday morning after my daughter was at school I told my husband that the marriage was over and asked if he would move out, as he has people to stay with and I don't, plus as my daughters main carer I wanted to stay in the home with her.
His response was basically if you want it to finish then, fine. Fair enough. I asked if we can discuss care of our child and was met with the answer that she either stayed with me or him and not see the other parent.
He packed to go and was only bothered about money I had taken from our safe (he is greedy with money and I knew I would not get a penny, which is why I removed the money)
Since then he is refusing to have any communication with me. Our daughter was ok for a few days and didn't really notice his absence and I didn't contact him for a couple of days but then on Wednesday my daughter asked for him, I sent a text to say she wanted him and can he call or answer my call so he can at least speak to her and he has refused to.
Even though she has asked for him she has been easily distracted and I have just said that her father is busy with work right now which she seems to have accepted and I had hoped that after a few days he would have calmed down and made contact but it doesn't look like that will happen
I want very much to be able to say to my daughter that even though mummy and daddy don't love each other anymore, we still love you but how can I when it looks like he doesn't want to see her? How can I answer her questions on his absence and not hurt her or speak badly of her father in front of her?
I have made an appointment at mediation for Tuesday for an initial assessment in the hope that he will attend and we can arrange contact and financials however I am sure he will not attend as he doesn't want to communicate and I am sure he will not pay for the appointment
If anyone has any advice I would appreciate it