Am I being unreasonable?

[bananasmoothie]

My partner works away and comes to stay with us on a weekend, what really irritates me on these weekends however is that he stays in bed longer than anyone else in the house and around 11pm when I finally get irritated by it I go up and usually find him messing around on my pc looking at his daft car forums etc.

Anyway this week he has the week off work so he arranged to stay with us for the full week, anticipating this I have put a password on the pc so he can't use it, he's not too happy about it, was I in the wrong to do this?

Also he brought his xbox 360 down with him, I agreed to this as he said it was so the kdis could play on it and so that we could have a laugh with it on a night, anyway everytime he's left in the living room on his own he puts it on and plays on it for ages whilst everyone else sits around bored, he says he only plays on it as there is nothing else to do...am I right to be annoyed??? It's doing my head in.

that should be 11am obviously.

sounds like he only wants to have intimate relations with you?

i wouldnt be happy being a fuck buddy.

he is a man!

rather than password protecting the computer, sit and talk to him,,,tell him that you would really enjoy some family time, rather than him being on the computer or xbox...

TBH..saying he only plays on it because there is nothing else to do sounds a bit childish

so make sure there is something to do! go to the park, go swimming, cinema, bike ride, cook together, watch a film at home all together, arts and crafts , board games, etc....

He's an immature manchild, not a man or a partner worth bothering with frankly.

What future do you see yourself having with this manchild?. Such people rarely if ever change because they feel they are doing nothing wrong and that its your problem if you complain. He's taking you for a fool.

I have spoken to him about the pc but he still insists on doing it. same with the xbox. He doesnt live with us which makes it even more irritating that he spends his time here either on the pc or the xbox, especially when he see's me hanging around bored waiting for him to turn it off.

If the only thing he does when he comes to yours is play with the Xbox, or the PC, then you have to question why he's coming at all as he could just as easily do that at home.

The only answers I can come up with are that a) your cooking is better than his and b) he gets his end off.

This theory is given further weight by the fact you've spoken to him about his rude and selfish behaviour and he still does it.

Not a very flattering way to be viewed is it ? For your own self-worth I'd get shot .... unless you are getting something from this relationship you've not told us about.

I would tell him youre busy the next weekend he is off. Cool it down a bit and go out and have some fun with your children.

Are they your children with him? Or just yours?
He doesn't sound ready to be a dad just yet or maybe he's just acclimatising to the situation?

Oh god he sounds like a moron

"he says he only plays on it as there is nothing else to do" PMSL.
Ban the Xbox, he's got all week to play with it. Oh just ban him actually, sounds no use to anyone.