Pregnant & alone please tell me it gets easier

[Meloncakes]

I recently posted on here about how my partner unexpectedly walked out on me at 16 weeks pregnant.
Well....It's now been over a month since this happened. I've not heard anything from him, his family or friends. I'm getting by day by day. My appetite has come back and I'm sleeping much better which is fab!.
I still find myself getting quite emotional but I guess that's a lot to do with the hormones too. His belongings are still here which is just horrible. He made me feel so loved and wanted and he did everything for me and my 2 older children (who have an amazing dad btw). I'm just so confused and feel as if I'm some what being strung along.
I'm fully prepared and expecting him to not come back but would love to hear from people who have been in a similar situation. Thank you xx

Hey OP yes been here. It's very saddening and lonely but you have your lovely children. Do you have family and friends you can talk to and who are supportive? It might be cathartic to pack his stuff up and put it away or tell him to come get them at xxx time or you are putting them out for the rubbish collection. This might give you a conclusion to the situation with this utter nob which you are in control of. Cuddle your kids, talk to your friends and family and try and be thankful for those still in your life that love you. Focussing on the rejection just makes it hard and let's face it, his behaviour says nothing about you and everything about him. Big hug. Xxx

Thank you for your reply.
I have great friends and although they are fairly far away I do have a very supportive family. As far as his stuff goes I have moved it all into the garage so at least I don't have to look at it. When it gets closer to my due date I will sell what I can and buy things for our baby. Some of it is very sentimental to him which makes me think I'm just being used.
I'm trying to stay strong and think positive. I just cannot understand how he can tell me how much he loves me then just abandon me x

Hi OP, sorry to hear this. Yes, it gets easier, I promise. I was in the same situation but was overseas and married. Ex H left saying that he wasn't ready and my parents didn't want me back in the UK as a single parent. Admittedly I didn't have any other DC to cope with but i managed absolutely fine. It was difficult readjusting the life that I thought I'd have to the life that I ended up with but now, 19 years on, I genuinely wouldn't change a thing. DD has just finished her first term at university and has never had any contact with ex H (his choice) so we're very close and she is secure and confident. She does wish that she had siblings though, so your baby will have that. In a strange way it's easier making decisions on your own, I think - and you've done it before whereas I was an utter novice!
Good luck - you will be fine.

It absolutely does get easier! Pp is right. My 7 year old has no contact and honestly I do love being a single mum. All those decisions are yours. It's just the abandonment at the start is hard to get over but as I said it says everything about what an asshole he is and nothing about you. Stay strong! Focus on your kids and the new baby. Look after yourself really well xxx

Thank you both for your replies.
Hearing your stories fills me with confidence. Yes, the abandonment is incredibly hard to cope with and I really wish I didn't love him. I shouldn't love him!. But I have every reason to get on with my life and be the best I can be!x