I need thump on the head and honesty please

[troubledsoul12]

I will try to make it short ,please bare with me .
I am stupid ,I will admit that but I need to hear objective opinion and probably telling off.

I am married and year ago our marriage took a bad turn.it was going downfall but year ago it was a huge turn.... One of the nights ( when angry) I went to one of the chat sites. Met lots of creepy people and didn't give them minute of my time but one stood out and we started chatting.
We were both honest about our situations and who we are , he was very straight forward ( to my knowledge) ... We were both lonely and just chatted generally about things .
We started texting every day and that turned into every 5-10 -15 -20 min per day texting . Time permitted sometimes 4/5 h at the time .
I fell for him , deeply and hard a he did for me . We became very close and started speaking on the phone since summer time.
I am planning to leave my husband , it's not fair to him or me to be unfaithful , even though I know I crossed the line .
He wants to leave his wife ( 2 dc and dsd).
He wanted us to meet , introduce each other properly and see what is this what is going on .
Few times I postponed thinking its not fair towards my dh ( from
My side ) x
Saying all that , we speak about everything , good and bad , our business ( work) , family basically about EVERYTHING .

He told me that wife wanted new house and it's good investment for girls . I always supported him and was always saying that his family is number one , even before we developed feelings for each other I always encouraged him to work on his marriage .
Now , tonight he told me he listed house for sale and it's not for him , he is still planning to move in with me when I move out and we will hopefully get together .
Now , I know just need confirmation .... I am a dreamer aren't I????? Stupid naive woman????
I know who he is , everything about him he told me everything and I of course checked as he knows about me .
But I am confused of what is going on !!!!!! I am heartbroken ....

I think you need to meet, first. I know lots of women who got involved online, then met and found there was no connection.

You have never met?
Watch catfish on MTV.
If you're unhappy them by all means leave your DH but don't assume this person will be a knight in shining armour.

Have you ever met this man??

I can understand why your getting carried away if you don't have a good marriage but honestly? You've never even clapped eyes on him.

I'm leaving y husband in January, I will be single for a long time before I even consider meeting somebody else because I am leaving for me, because I am not happy, not because I want to be with somebody else.
my honest answe to you is... leave you DH, be alone, meet people- in real life not online.
Leaving for Marrige to he with somebody you have not even clapped eyes on is just very odd

I know he is not , I know and he admits many flaws . The thing is he is who he says he is . His address ,, name , live photos of him and his children .... Not a slightliest doubt to
Know that he is who he says he is cx
My problem is I feel almost betrayed which is silly really , I don't have right to feel that way but gosh we developed friendship ... Talking about good / bad ... We just click x
Do I just walk away and tell him why? Or do I wait for us to be single and tell him that?
I am in love , maybe stupid of me , but so deeply in love . I know it sounds like fantasy but promise you , I am everything but a dreamer . Very much realist and work with facts .... Somehow my heart is breaking tonight

Thank you for all your advices . You are right just it's so hard to say goodbye to something that I build I guess in my mind

And I am not a young girl either x I know what I should do just it's almost like addiction

You haven't fallen for him, deeply or otherwise. You're indulging in a childish fantasy and dangerously close to making some very poor decisions based on it. That's the reality of this relationship. Come to will you?

What you need to do is wave this man goodbye, it is not normal.

HVe you previously in life thought that talking to a man on the internet and liking him meant that you needed to leave your husband and set up a life with him, even though you have never met hin???

Please god tell me that you don't have children?!?!

No not to set up the life with him rather to get to know him but only when single ( hence me not meeting him yet) .
I am being a dreamer am I ??? Just deluded it looks like but needed to hear that out loud I really did .

Thank you for your advice

I know what I need to do and thank you one more time xxx won't be coming back not for this topic at least

You are a massive dreamer,if you aren't happy in your marrige then leave.. but leave and make sure
That you and DC are ok. Do not leave and be with this man. It is like something from the tele.

Do not contact him again, sort yourself and your children out. It's what you/the deserve

You're being ridiculous. The idea that you would start up a new life with someone who is little more than a pen pal - WTF?!!!

Leave your husband. Meet up with this bloke but don't assume anything will come of you and him.

You must have really distanced yourself from your husband. Hasn't he noticed? How on earth do you find the time for all this? I'm kind of hoping your husband's having an affair actually.

If you have children then please know that basing any of your life choices on a man you have never actually met, would make you a deeply irresponsible parent.