Divorce - costs - and otherwise attempting an amicable resolution

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First hurdle, draft divorce petition stage.

Have agreed to remove the option to claim costs (against solicitors advice) because it set an adversarial tone with stbxh right at the beginning.

Has anyone managed a settlement with minimal legal input?

If you did what would your warning be if you were to give any? Which variables would you see as most important? I'm thinking staying in the house which he agrees on anyway.

Wishing it was done already!

Do you have kids? If you do, try and think of it as a process that sets the course for your children to be provided for long term. That should take some emotion out.

Not having the option to claim costs might affect dc, you cannot necessarily foresee what the costs will add up to, so leave all options open and let the lawyer advise you.

Your stbxh is a grown up and can look after his own feelings. And he can get his own solicitor.

I managed my own divorce using good old Google and gov.uk sites here

Probably

Thank you. I'm done though. If this stage is so stressful I'm not going to make it through. Think will stay separated. But thanks.