So-called dp wants to split up with me

[tammybear]

I feel like im going to be sick

whats happened tammybear? xxx

why tammybear??

Why whats wrong Honey?? ()

I don't even 'know'you and I am v worried for you are you ok?

oh tammy what's happened?

Oh no, tammybear ! Hugs to you.

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ive got another thread on here in chat from last night where i was really angry with dp. we had an arguement, and last night i have never been so angry with him. i asked him if he thought love was enough to get through anything as hes said it twice before that he doesnt think it is, and then i asked him if i was to break up with him (hypothetically) what would he do and would he be at all bothered, as lately i dont think he would be.

last night he was just being really immature and that just wound me up even more. today i thought i cant be bothered to txt him or anything, and ive been busy anyway. again i had some of the sarcastic remarks off him, and then he says im full of s**t and cant be bothered and i oughta find some other mug

No, tammybear, you have your exams too.

he sometimes does this to just get back at me, but i dont know. i dont know if i can cope with all these stupid little games

Oh babes, perhaps you jurt need a little bit of space? Can you escape anywhere at the weekend?

other thread

thomcat we dont live together so if i keep my fone off i wont hear from him

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unfortunately i have been thinking about it secur. ive got so much going on, and i dont want him adding to my problems, i want him to be supporting me.

im going to doctors on tuesday to see if i can see a counsellor or someone because lately ive been feeling like i cant talk to anyone (except you guys off course!!) dp says he's always around to listen, but when i do talk to him about my problems, he either thinks they're not good enough reasons to be upset over or doesnt listen. he doesnt try to understand.

like earlier, i said to him ive been busy today part of the reason why i couldnt txt him (and because i didnt want to) as i went to tescos with my sister and dd was screaming like as if we had kidnapped her!! when i said this he made some comment like "oh yea shes a real handful isnt she!?"

hi tammybear are you feeling ok, email me if you want a chat ill add u on to my msn when i get in xxx nikki xxxxxx

thanks nikcola, ill do that

Oh tammy

Re Tescos - what would you have wanted him to say though? if I'd mentioned that to to my DP her probably wouldn't even have acknowledged I'd said anything as he wouldn't think it needed answereing. I just accept that that's how he is and most of the time I leave it.

i think if ypou're both feeling a bit bleuh and then you start aking how would he react if you dumped him he isn't going to respond in a positive way.

My advice would be to chill and give yourselves a break / some space and not play games.

Don't trest him for the right answer when you're not massively getting on he'll never answer correctly.

Lot of love to you mate.

thanks thomcat, its not so much what i wanted him to say about tescos, its complicated. its just how dp is, he never believes me, he always takes other people's opinions rather than listen to me, even if im the only one who can answer them. i have been thinking a lot about our relationship lately. only last week he had said he wanted to leave me, and it was a couple weeks ago before that he had said it to me as well. i feel like im just a burden on him

when we argue, the option of us splitting up occurs, and it makes me feel like im not worth trying to sort out the arguement so we can get through it the other side

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tammybear - Sorry to read this. I think you're doing really well as a single parent and I fully understand that you don't want this relatonship to fail. However, I think that you and your dp probably do need to give each other some space. You might miss each other; possibly in a "I can't live without him/her" way or possibly in a "I feel lonely without a partner" way. It's hard to split up with someone, but you can try for months or years to make a relationship work, but if it hasn't got what it takes, then it won't, no matter how hard you both try. I know what you mean when you expect a better response from a dp and when it feels like he doesn't accept your feelings as real. Lots of men are like that, though. What you want is empathy but what you get is a dismissive answer which can make you feel like it doesn't matter or that you were being silly. I hope this sounds okay. I'm trying hard to say what I mean. If it doesn't work out, try to say to yourself that it wasn't meant to be, and that if you stayed together you might miss out on your soulmate who is out there somewhere. Take care and remember that there are friends here who will support you. tm xx

Hi Tammybear - how are thing's going this morning? You've got loads on at the moment with looking after your daughter and your exams - so I think you are best off not thinking about splitting up, or raising this with dp at the moment - get yourself through your exams and then think about your relationship more seriously once you have a bit more time.

hi mummytosteven, im not too bad i guess, havent really spoken to dp. he rang me up yesterday but he started to have a go at me, so i told him i was going to put the phone down as i didnt want to have a repeat of the night before. im trying not to contact him as like you say ive got too much going on to be worrying about this as well

tammybear

just seen this thread as first time today i have had a chance to log on - and I only have 5 minutes. Just wanted to say am so sorry. And I hope you can work this out.

Big hugs honey.