Found out DP kissed 2 women during first 6 month of us dating

[Whatthefreaknow]

He swears that since he fell in love with me he has been faithful.

But he went on a handful of dates and kissed 2 women during the first 6 month period of us seeing each other.

I'm so upset. I feel like our relationship and love is tainted.

Am I being childish and unreasonable?

I had a random snog with an old mate when DH and I had been together for a couple of months. I also told my ex that I'd be up for getting back together if he was. That was nearly 20 years ago, we're still together and happy, and I've never been unfaithful (or anything remotely close to it) since then. I think it's reasonable to keep your options open in the early days.

I think that how you were told about this, and what you were told, is quite important. Are you able say a bit more about the circumstances?

Sorry that you're going through this.

This wouldn't bother me. A lot of people date multiple people in the beginnings of a relationship. And it was just a kiss.

But Bagina, why is this worse because they've been together a year rather than four years? That just means the OP has found out sooner?

What notacat said, i don't think it's a deal breaker

I don't understand the comments about "keeping options open". That doesn't compute with me. When I am in a relationship with someone, that's it. DP and I have been together for 4 years and I can honestly say that I have never given another man a second glance. I love my DP and have done from very early on in our relationship.

OP, I'm sorry this has happened to you. Have some . I know I wouldn't be able to let this go.

Because he hasn't had chance to prove himself trustworthy. He hasn't spent years adoring her or making a good committed life together. It's all very recent.

Like I said, I was prepared to be open minded. I've had a drunken one night stand at the start of a few relationships, but it was in the moment. It wasn't planned and arranged. It didn't go on for six months. That's a long time. Yes keep your options open for a bit. But 6 months of feeding you lies and swanning off with other women whose hearts he's going to have to break...

It's the lying that's the problem really - by which I mean the dishonesty involved in breaking the agreement they would only see each other.

If it were me, it would not bother me if we had not said that we were only going to date each other, or if we had not been intimate with each other. But otherwise I would feel betrayed, and knowing myself it would ruin the relationship as it is unlikely I could trust him again.