Last year I discovered dh was flirting with women on his phone. I approached him about it and it ended. The flirtatious texts on this were talking about bra sizes. Thereafter I didn't see anything.
Just to say all my discoveries of his flirting, cheating and downright disrespect has been via his phone text messages.
Roll in 2016 and mans been at it again but this time it is explicit. 2 different women. Talks of being "ho", "missing her pu", "i don't have anyone to leave ds with so can we meet another time". I could go on and on with some of the messages I've read. There is also lending and borrowing of money with these women. In September I thought I only knew of one and we discussed it but tbh he did not confirm he'd stop talking to her and I took it on face value he'd stopped. I was naive to think that, as all he did was change her name on his phone to only an initial but had maintained contact. The other woman there had not been contact since June but in the last few weeks they have been talking.
One might say I put myself in this situation coz I checked his phone but I became nosy when one day he passed me his phone to see a picture when a message popped with "good morning sweetie". I didn't ask or react and chose to find time to go through the phone alone. The reason I didn't ask him immediately was I didn't want him to lie and I felt I needed more evidence to be sure something was not right. Wow things are not right he now texts and deletes messages but I've managed to see some.
I want to address this matter with him I'm due in five days and didn't want to distress baby or have active labour due to his behaviour so I don't put myself or baby #2 at risk. Is it rationale for me to bring this up after my delivery and how best to handle it. For the record the trust and respect I had for him has really been broken.