Brief history (full version in previous threads). Last year my ex (DD's dad) became a registered sex offender. I obviously stopped all contact for a while, and eventually agreed to supervised contact by social services as that's what we thought was best for DD(9).
Except it wasn't. She simply couldn't cope with it all, and then when he didn't turn up one week, she was simply devastated so I refused any face to face contact and agreed on weekly letters.
After a few cin meetings, and despite a few missed letters from him, I agreed to phone calls once a week as well as letters on the understanding that if we felt DD wasn't coping they would be stopped. However, DD coped reasonably well. I have kept the same contact for a few month now.
Ex is now pushing for face to face contact again, and while I have agreed for one around Xmas, I have made it clear that it won't be a weekly or even monthly event as DD can't cope with it. School are backing me on this.
After talking with both DD's, I'm thinking of suggesting 4 x yearly, as while I would happily stop contact altogether, I know that's not what DDs want. Can anyone offer me any words re how to ensure I stick to my guns here and don't cave in? I hate the cin meetings, my anxiety kicks in big time and I find it really difficult talking with police, probation, social services etc.