How do you know when it's time to go and how do you do it?

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I'm struggling with DH. I still love him but he is spoilt and entitled and I deserve better.

He complains the whole time about petty issues, everything has to revolve around him. I've tried talking to him about it but, although he seems to listen, I just don't think he sees it.

He can be very passive aggressive and controlling. He is also capable of sulking in a big way.

I know he loves me but he doesn't seem to like me very much.

I'm beginning to wonder if we would be better off without him. I know that he will never leave. He would rather live in misery under the same roof than go - even if I said he had to.

Friends have said that the woman and children should never leave the house, but I genuinely can't see any other way.

The house is in joint names but it was me who paid most of the deposit. We earn about the same amount and I do the majority of the childcare/housework.

There is no question of me not living with my children.

So what happens? How does it work?

I'm not saying that is necessarily what I want to do - I just need to know what my options are.

Could you have a break? That is, ask him to leave for a set time (maybe a month) and see how that feels? If you miss each other it would tell you something and if you don't it would tell you something too. It would also give him a better understanding of how unhappy you are.

Best wishes: it sounds very unpleasant.

He would never go. He has nowhere to go and would resent spending the money on a hotel.

Actually he could move back in with this Dad but he wouldn't.

I'm hoping if he thinks I'm serious something might change.

He refuses counselling but I'm not sure how desperate he thinks we need to be.

Im going through this now. Joint mortgage, but he's paid next to nothing towards it over the years. I've told him i want to separate and asked him to leave. He has made no effort to so I'm stuck living with the twat . Next stop solicitor..

That sounds horribly hard.