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How to be positive when you are completely burnt out!?

37 replies

CakeLover0 · 28/11/2016 20:35

I have posted recently about facebook and here I am again. Apologies in advance for moaning. I am (honestly) a positive person, usually anyway. I have had to be I'm on my own with my dc's. You were all so helpful and I really appreciated having a response.
I'm just physically and mentally exhausted!
I don't have anyone irl to turn to.
without harping on....I'm an exhausted single mum hoping to hear of others on how to give yourself a kick up the butt when you have no energy to do so.
ANY advice or words of wisdom would be great right now as I sit here feeling frumpy, puffy, spotty and crying into my wine glass!

OP posts:
WeirdnessOfDoom · 30/11/2016 22:07

Baklava,I read somewhere " don't dwell on thing you haven't done,look at things you managed to do" so I don't care there are 3 loads of washing waiting to be put away.I manage to cook,feed everybody,take kids for a walk.

CakeLover0 · 30/11/2016 22:07

Hello lovely people Smile
Thankyou for asking Wink
I am doing 'ok' thankyou. I am counting down to the Christmas break. I'm going to get this week out of the way and get a check list going. I need to check some things off. I'm slowly losing my mind 🙈
Iv definitely taken all messages on board and trying to put life into perspective.
I worry I have taken too much on but don't really have a choice. Maybe I'm having a wobble because it's Christmas and haven't even began to shop yet.
I hope everyone is ok?
Thankyou everyone for your concern x

OP posts:
myfriendnigel · 01/12/2016 07:02

That's a good way of seeing things weirdness.
In trying to do some early trimming up to get a march on Christmas yesterday I managed to get some glitter in my eye and had to go to a and e as I lost the vision in it (and it bloody hurt). Have got a 'deep corneal abrasion' Just goes to show what happens when you try and take pro active steps to work through your to do list! (And also confirms my believe that glitter is actual evil).
So that hasn't helped really as now just want to lie in bed with my eye shut. Must get up and walk the dog and go to work however.Not feeling it at all.
Hope everyone else is doing better.

EastMidsGPs · 01/12/2016 18:50

I was feeling the same mentality and physically exhausted with many demands on me and my time.
I wasn't sleeping very well at all which didn't help, and having really unrested sleep if I did sleep.
So started to take liquid Magnesium and to also have bath in Epsom salts before bed. Have noticed finally over last 10 days I am sleeping longer and more restful. It has taken around 3 months tho.

Violetcharlotte · 01/12/2016 19:01

Hi OP. Sorry to hear you're feeling crap. Being a single Mum is tough isn't it? How old are your children?
Mine are older now (17 and 15) but can honestly say I'm happy being single. I used to feel just the way you do though. Happy to talk if it helps Flowers

WeirdnessOfDoom · 01/12/2016 20:28

Ouch nigel,that's painful:( no chance for a day off work?

OP, i only just finished my Christmas shopping for kids,they aren't getting much as our house is full of plastic so mainly books and a couple of games for the older one.
Younger one decided to give us a night from hell last night so we're both like zombies.Currently waiting for him to go to sleep.Work tomorrow.Hamster wheel...

BaklavaBalaclava · 01/12/2016 20:40

Hi Nigel! I'm so sorry , that sounds really painful. Glitter truly is evil!

myfriendnoel · 01/12/2016 22:46

No had a cqc inspection at one of my services this morning so had to go in with attractive eye still swollen up and gross to boot.
Thanks for all well wishes though Smile

wtffgs · 02/12/2016 11:01

Love this thread - really wiped after dramatic A&E visit and worrying times with elderly parent.

Too tired to actually contribute much at the moment - LP etc but nice to read ideas, strategies BrewFlowers

ButterflyOfFreedom · 02/12/2016 11:12

Must be something in the air as on paper I have a near perfect life with a fab DH, 2 adorable DC, nice house, ok job, great friends etc. but rrecently have just felt overwhelmed / a bit down / too much to do etc.
I cried last nightand have cried today - really not sure why!?!
I am a positive person too but just feel drained!

Will keep an eye on this thread but am off to have a bath!

BaklavaBalaclava · 08/12/2016 08:00

Hey everyone!

How are you all doing this week? My policy of rigorously not thinking about the things that are breaking my MH, yoga, eating regularly and running seem to be doing the trick, and although it's hard work to keep positive, I appear to be coming out of my terrible funk. I've not burst into tears for 3 days now!

Hope your eye is feeling better!

OP - how are you doing?

Weirdness (I love your name so much!) how are things with you?

And everyone else in team 'trying to not let a shitty time get you down too much'

other team names are available

daddyorscience · 08/12/2016 14:40

I had a huge burnt out phase about a month back.. Broken car, solo in a very physical, the constrained job, ex was on holiday, so had to reduce work hours to collect the kids etc, then managing 2 kids on top, as well as trying to sort the car.

I've had depression counseling before, and it's really good.. But at times people were asking me for things here, and I felt very close to running away screaming "enough!".

In the end, I went to my bosses and laid it on the line, they brought in an assistant to lighten the load, and the entire 17 strong department chipped in to help as well (in their prep tech).

I paid to have my car dumped at the dealer, keys in with "fix it, if you can't, crush it" on a note. Then I hired a car for 2 weeks.

I adopted the attitude "I can only do what I can do", and narrowed my focus to what mattered.. Nothing non essential.

It's been a month or more..I feel I'm starting to come out of it... Things are level again. Kids happy, car fixed (after the dealer 50% fixed it and I did the rest), I feel the lights are coming back on.

There is nothing wrong with admitting that you need help, and it is hard to stay positive when things seem black. I have a good team and family to back me up, but even at the worst point, I knew I could stand looking at my cabinets of poisons, flammables, and chemicals, scalpels etc, and think "not going to happen". Knowing I could give in made me determined to not do so.

Hang in there.

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