Up and Left because im pregnant

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Has anyone had a partner leave them when they were pregnant? Would love if anyone had any advice on what to do , boyfriend of 2 almost 3 years split from me the week after I found out I was pregnant as he claimed he "didn't love me anymore" told me he would 100% be there for me and the baby but hasnt once contacted me , has ignored all scan photos and appointments or hasnt once texted to see how I am , yet is going around telling everyone that were having a baby? Why bother telling people if he's not contacting me, honestly at a loss here as I don't know whether to just keep updating him on the pregnancy whether he replies or not or just try no contact at all, I just find it very hard to let him and his family treat me like this while im pregnant and then I know they'll be all over me when babys here and I just don't agree with that if they're acting like I don't exist when im pregnant ?? Its putting a lot of stress on me and while im not expecting him to constantly text me I would expect even a weekly text to ask how I am or a reply to scan photos to say he's glad everything's healthy but zilch :-( mentally and physically drained over it , it's been a month now since I found out I was pregnant and no contact from him at all im ️only 19 so it's hard enough for me as is , and hearing he is out every weekend with girls etc is just breaking my heart I went to pick up baby ️️bits yesterday and while I was out got a phonecall to say he'd gone off with a girl the night before and she now has his phone which means she can see all the private pictures and messages I had sent him about the pregnancy so that ruined my day out, I know I can't control if he moves on but I was his first girlfriend he was never this kind of person before we broke up. I just wish things were different I actually wake up on Fridays dreading the weekend because I know he will be out and by sunday il have heard a story about him, I just want us to even be civil so we can have a good relationship for our babys sake but he seems to have no interest at all.

You don't have to hand your child over to them unless you want to, but he will have to pay maintenance

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As pp said, block his mum. She sounds toxic.

Hey OP,

I am in exactly the same boat as you right now, except my ex called the police for sending him pictures of the scan!

I wish I could tell you to block him & forget about him however it's tough!
Regardless of how much of a dick he is being, he is still the baby's father and you obviously love him!

You are 19, if anything you need him more than ever, it's easy as an outsider to tell you to cut him out of your life and forget you were every together.

Due to his age and how long you two have been together, he could coke back, however it could be too late.

I agree though, block his mum, she's just trying to wind you up. I fully understand the whole not wanting to be mugged off and then they expect you to hand the baby over, however the baby is yours not theirs!

If you can afford it, don't claim from him that way he won't know when the baby is here.

If you'd like a chat, message me! I know exactly what you are going through, I'm going through the exact same thing.