I'm 21 with my own family (twin daughters who are a year old) so obviously they're my priority.
Ever since I was about 10 or 11 I've been stuck in between my parents arguing, they both always bitched to me about their problems. I was living with them then so I went along with it but my mum recently tried getting me involved in it again over something as stupid as my dad not taking her away for her birthday! She sent me a message saying that she's going away for the night and started telling me about their arguinment, I simply told her that I'm not getting involved, I'm not their to be the middle man and they are both wrong, my dad for not listening to her (typical man) and my mum for over reacting about little things and she told me to piss off.
I don't know how to handle her when my daughters go to visit their grandad, do ignore her, wait for an apology or simply just be civil enough to be in the same room but not make the effort to take my children's to see her (she makes no effort on her part to come over to my house to see them)
Any advise of how to deal with this would be appreciated, it's really hurt me that she seems to just be pushing me away to get my dads attention!