Am i overly sensitive? Grumbly DH

[MoreBiscuits]

This is two teeny examples of common behaviour in my house. Am I overly sensitive.. is this regular married life stuff… ?

DH looks in washing basket, finds one of his pairs of jeans still needing washed that he wanted to wear next day (he has loads of jeans) mutters ‘ffs’ and aggressively replaces basket lid. As I am in same room, I take it as a dig at me for not having them washed – as I do the majority of the washing/ironing. I commented that I had cleared the washing the other day but it’s built up again and I hadn’t had a chance. We both work full time, x2 dcs. I also pointed out that he’s welcome to wash as much as he wants himself. Next thing we’re arguing and DH says I am giving him a hard time for not doing enough round the house when he’s been trying really hard. I take the bait and argue back but comment that the whole conversation started at his reaction to not having his favourite pair of jeans ready yet I am the baddy for simply suggesting he does some of his own washing….

Weekly shopping arrives. I order it. I put it away. I cook tea. DH looks in fridge and moans that there’s isn’t enough. I note that I did forget a couple of things and will pick them up through the week but there’s plenty to keep us going. He continues to complain. I point out he is welcome to do the shopping occasionally or do the meal planning etc…

Do other DHs grumble so much? Should I just ignore him instead of rising to the bait… ?

[Pallisers]

Women and I did for years too seem to put up with so much because they think that all men act like it and they really don't.

This exactly. A marriage/relationship should be pleasant, supportive, kind, and enjoyable at the least.

[happypoobum]

So you're waiting for it to get worse before you act? Why? Isn't that just a disgusting waste of your precious life?

[BreatheDeep]

What pointythings said.
My DH actually does most of the laundry. Without question. He sees it needs doing and does it. He does more than his fair share of chores. Without question. And without digs.