Hi, I'd like some advice on what's normal after a marriage ends. My 8 year marriage ended earlier this year and I moved out this summer. For me it was a long time coming, there was no affection or sex and we were like housemates muddling along for the sake of our 2 dc. We're both happier separated and we are co-parenting very amicably.
I recently discussed with a close friend that I was going for dinner with a guy at work who'd asked me out. She felt like it was far too soon and that I needed to be single for much longer and concentrate on myself and the kids. To clarify, I don't want anything serious as I don't want to jump into a new relationship too quickly. I'm a really independent person, and love living on my own. I would always make my intentions clear to anyone I dated and have no plans whatsoever to introduce anyone to my kids. Would appreciate opinions on this. Is it too early? Is it so wrong to want to have a bit of fun? I married very young and in the last few years my self esteem has taken a bit of a battering. It's nice to know someone is attracted to me but I don't know if I'm doing the right thing. Advice appreciated pls.