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If you've never known your father...

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FrenchDucksSayCoinCoin · 24/11/2016 15:52

...do you ever think about tracing him? Mostly it's not on my mind at all, but there are times I find myself idly googling for information and wondering whether I want to know more about him. All I know is his name, rough age and that he must be rhesus positive.
I don't want to hurt my mum's feelings by seeking him out, nor do I want to turn his life upside down (nor the lives of his wife and child/ren assuming they exist). For those reasons, I strongly feel that I shouldn't look for him, but I'm not so clear on whether I want to.

It is usually a GP appointment that sets me off with these thoughts, as I don't have a full medical history. I have a recurring thought that he might seek me out if he needs a kidney for himself or one of his 'real' children, for want of a better way of putting it.
In all likelihood, I don't think I'll make any real attempt to contact him, other than periodic google searches. Has anyone been through this and made a definite decision one way or the other?

OP posts:
Kazplus2 · 24/11/2016 22:26

Nope. You can't miss what you've never had!

Laska5772 · 24/11/2016 22:27

Wine is possibly the answer... although I have [tea] now and am off to bed Smile

Take Care Everyone on here Remember what i said upthread

We have not just survived , but have survived well..

Laska5772 · 24/11/2016 22:30

Brew .. I meant

dustarr73 · 25/11/2016 15:40

No i dont know my dad,never met him.But it hink in some ways its a blessing,it would be worse wiht him coming in and out of my life.

The way i look at it is,he knew about me.He was the adult so it was up to him.I dont grieve for what i never had.Its his loss.

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