My mum is ruining our relationship

[LardArse88]

Going to keep this short as its a long story
My brothers ex lived with my mum for a year and a half she wasn't in a relationship with my brother but she had no where to live so my mum took her in along with my niece and her other kid.
I came to live with my mum and I needed my old room back so my mum asked her politely when she would be looking for somewhere else to go.

She flipped and went mad threatening me and that she wants to kick my baby out of me she actually attacked me pulled my hair and smashed my phone up and the police were called. They arrested her charges were dropped as she said nothing happened all she did was brush passed me. This was the first incident the second time she threatened to get people down and set the house on fire.

Anyway her child benefits and tax credits go into my mums back account my mums goes to meet her every week to give her the money and my mum is helping her move into her house today. My mum was in town with her yesterday walking around shops.

I just can't believe it and I think it's an absolute joke my mum tried to blame me for ringing the police on her she said I didn't even want to leave a statement but you made me. At the time of the incident my mum was more than willing to leave the statement the police officer actually said she should make the statement as its her house she was threatening to set on fire.

My mother is ruining our relationship when she meets her she talks about my business to her and I can't stand it!!!!

[BastardGoDarkly]

She's not though springy OP has her room back, ds ex moved out. She just wants to keep in contact, I'm not getting any that's pissing the OP off to the extent it is, I know she assaulted her, and behaved appallingly, but OP never had to see her again, it's up to her Mum if she wants to stay in contact, and she does.

[tallwivglasses]

Talk to your mum. You'll get a clearer idea of why she stays in contact so much, and she'll get a clearer idea of how it makes you feel.

How do you know she talks about you? I would have thought you'd be rather an uncomfortable topic of conversation between them - seeing as ex assaulted you.

[goddessofsmallthings]

I agree with tall and can't imagine why your dm would find it necessary to talk about you when her obvious concern is to keep on friendly terms with your db's ex in order maintain contact with her grandchild.

Fwiw, the needs of a child always trump those of an adult and I have no doubt your dm will be an equally concerned grandmother when your sprog arrives.