Ok, years ago my husband asked me to come to England for a 6m post doc... I put in hold my career for him to develop his a bit...problem is that he never wanted to go back.
I had the bad luck to end in a place where my area of knowledge was then somewhat underdeveloped so... no job for quite a long time, now the area has finally developed my knowledge is seriously out of date. So still, no coming back on doing what I loved.
To make matters worse, the circle of people that we relate to are here in a temporary basis, 8 years on we still don't have a good friend base mainly because they keep going away.
Having DS 4 years ago has stressed the need of having a stronger network around us, he promised me we would move back "next year" and has been doing the same since 6 yrs ago, which is exactly time when Is tarted beggin him to go back. No single day have passed in the last 7 years without me breaching the subject.
DH spends a lot of time travelling, so he doesn't realise the amount of work raising a child with severe allergies is, he keeps making mistakes that compromise the health of DS and he is never here to deal with the consequences.
To make the matters worse I have not really had reasonable support to deal with the horrible behaviour of his family.
I spend so much time in my own that I'm virtually a single mum. I think that we have got to the point where DH thinks that being married only means you can't sleep accross the bed so... after some stressful time I have called it a day.
And he doesn't believe me... however expects that I take any initiative to resolve the problems because I'm the one who is feeling like this. I just want out, I have asked him to leave but he says we are fine...how he gets to that idea I have not a clue, I have not even kissed him in several months, we have not being out in our own more than 6 times in the last 4 years and when he is around he is only playing with DS or plugged to the computer...
Any ideas about how to make him believe?