One of my oldest, best friends has asked to meet up tonight because she is desperate for someone to talk to.
I know what it's about. She has recently started an affair. TBH it started as an emotional affair months ago and now the inevitable has happened. I'm guessing this is the case, because I had an email from her last week asking me to text her about a pretend night out.
She has been in a very rocky marriage for years and really unhappy. A few years ago, when her husband got violent, I told her she needed to leave. She didn't want to for the sake of her children. As far as I know, it hasn't got violent again, but they both make each other very miserable.
I have no love lost for her husband but I don't think she is doing the right thing at all. Also, I know if she gets found out, things are going to be so much more difficult for her then if she just did what she's needed to do for a long time and tell him to leave.
She's worried he's going to be able to take half of the equity from the house, which is all from the equity of a house she bought before they got married.
What would you say to her? I am pretty much the only person she can talk to on this, I want to support her, but I don't like what she is doing. And also, I have no idea if her fears are founded.
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gretagoodhouse · 21/11/2016 12:35
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