Dating whilst pregnant

[Notjustapregnantlady]

So I'm 33 weeks pregnant and I have a 1 year old. I've recently split from the father buy were both living with his mum due to housing issues. Thing is I received a message on facebook from a lad I went to school with he wants to take me out on a date...... he knows I'm pregnant and I have a 1 year old he's absolutely fine with it. So I suppose I just want some advice really what do I wear as I'm as big as a house! Has anyone done this before and has any advice or tips for me?

You know what? ...... with your Ex telling you there's no chance of reconciling ... go for it. It will give you a nice confidence boost and who knows where it will lead.

I'm not sure what you should wear, but he knows your pregnant, so even leggings and a top will be fine. Do your make up and hair and just have an open mind.

Aaahhh. I didn't see your last post.

Aw bless him he just said theres no rush just what ever makes me happy

I was going to say it wasn't a good idea and the remembered my boyfriend met me when I was pregnant and we went out a few months later. I wasn't phased by a baby and I had a job and house sorted so no other concerns.
I did have some feelings for my babies dad but I knew there was no hope there.
I would say if you are in the right headspace do it. But definitely don't rush this one. Date slowly .No moving anyone in etc for a good year or so.

He said he's going to wait until I'm ready, I just need to sort out a new place to live and have my baby thank you for all your lovely replies so nice to have support off you all

Don't get into any kind of dating at this stage I think as your heavily pregnant your emotions are sky high

His reply is good though. Something to look forward to for a few months time maybe!

Sounds like a nice guy.

As much as you want to get back with your Ex, don't beg or plead with him. For now you need to be practical about the children.

Once you move out, get child support sorted out. Get clear visitation days, so you have a break and don't go crazy.

Your Ex needs to know what it's like being a dad, but not being in a relationship with you.

Hey op fwiw I think you've done the right thing. I became close to someone during my pregnancy (wasn't with the dad throughout) and he was interested in a relationship with me even then. I was honest enough to tell him that while I had feelings for him I didn't want to be messing anyone around in case it was just not wanting to be alone with my three year old and a new baby.
We got to know each other very well as friends, he was so supportive with my horrendous pregnancy and visited in hospital when baby was born. We slowly began spending more time together and are now a couple. He has his own kids, his own place, isn't stepping on anyone's toes, he's just a wonderful man who is an amazing support and I love him dearly.
So it can work out... but if it's meant to be, it won't be rushed. Good luck! Enjoy your two babies