Gave my brother money to buy drugs

[Moanyoldbint89]

I'm aware this sounds awful but I can't bare to see him withdrawing and hate him having to go out and shoplift.
My brother is 27 had a normal life married had a daughter his partner cheated on him and got pregnant by one of his close friends and he became really depressed and turned to drugs and eventually heroin.
He came around yesterday evening and we had dinner together and I let him have my sofa and a blanket.
BTW I'm heavily pregnant 40 weeks infact, he started to withdraw this morning and I can't bare seeing him coughing runny eyes and nose going hot and cold diarrhoea the whole works. I went to the bank and took a tenner out he has now gone across town to get some heroin and said he will be back after. He was arrested not long ago and didn't get sentenced as it minor offences such as stealing meat from supermarkets but if he gets arrested again he will be sentenced. I normally tell him no but the thought of him being in prison scares me and especially when my baby is due.
To me my brother is still my brother he is loving and caring and will do anything for anyone. I'm sat here crying now I feel awful I could potentially have helped him to his death bed! Sat by the window waiting for him to come back

Might sound harsh but if depression is still at play what about ringing the crisis team and seeing if they can section him?

When I was an impatient they did have drug addicts on the same wing detoxing. It's like a rehab section so he would be monitored by professionals who can medicate him for the withdrawals.

My friend who I was in with has been clean a year now. She got a lot of support on her discharge with housing etc.

I don't know if it's something all psychiatric hospitals offer a detox programme but my local one does (north east)

Sorry if it sounds really drastic and I'm way off the mark. My stay turned my life around (depression) I've been stable for the longest period since I was 16.

If you want anymore details feel free to pm me. I'm sorry for what your going through and your brother. Life is incredibly unfair sometimes and everyone deserves another chance

Heroin got down to £2 a bag where i live. Its economically sensible to use v drinking, sadly, if you are just using whatever to pass the days. Weirdly it cuts down the crime as its relatively easy to beg for.

He can get help. But it's "help". No one can do it for him. Yea there's a gap between appointments but if he's going to disappear between them then he isn't committed. Keep you and your baby safe. (What if dealers start turning up on your doorstep?)

This is such a tough situation, OP, I really feel for you (and him).

My brother suffers with addiction too, it started when he was young with alcohol but eventually managed to get sober, then when his wife died he turned to alcohol again and then progressively to substance abuse to the point where I'm now the guardian of his daughter. It's horrendous to see him suffering, but he is in rehab now (has been for almost a year but still has a long way to go and regular slip ups).

I wish I could offer you better advice, but I really do wish you, your family and your brother all the best