Boyfriend of 3 years has been a gambler since day one. He tried to hide it at first but it all came out.
It came to a head when I gave him my card to get some cash out and he emptied my bank account. That was about a year ago. Since then i have taken full control of the finances and give him 'spending money'. This works to a point but I know he just gambles it away.
To be honest I stick my head in the sand about it but once every few months it all comes out. When his cash runs out he'll sell things or take out a payday loan. I've said get proper help or that's it so many times but he's just refusing now. He did call game care a few times. He also self excluded from the bookies but refused to do it at the casino.
We get on so well but it's just a constant black cloud over my head, his too.
This week I discovered he's been gambling online. Thousands of pounds, which to be fair he must have won. But I suspect the money came from a payday loan in the first place. He also asked for some cash to buy something online which I PayPaled over. The exact ammout is showing paid into the gambling account. Same day too.
I know now I can't change him or make him get help but I don't know what to do. I don't want to be alone, but I don't want to be lied to either. I'm also getting very resentful of being the one who takes control of everything.
Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.