I think I just want to rant.
My mom died last year. My parents normally spent their winters in Mexico.
This year, my dad hasn't yet gone, but says he wants to go for a month. He was going to travel down by car with other snowbirds, but they cancelled.
So my brother was going to go down, and I agreed to subsidise/pay for his trip (which is fine, we have more ££ and fewer kids than him, although it does make his recent bragging about ££ slightly odd). Now he's ill (well, he's been ill since January, but has just realised he can't go). But he did book tickets, so I'll send money to pay for that anyway.
I've asked him if any of his kids could go (many are over 18 - I expect they can drive?) instead. I am feeling guilty that I can't go, but frankly I don't want to. I find an hour in a car quite daunting, a week of eight-hours of driving per day would send me doolally. (Never mind spending that much time with my father, who, much as I love him, I have nothing in common with.)
It would make more sense to pay for my dad to go - buy him air tickets down. But he won't have a car down there that way, and I think rentals are expensive there ...