Had row with DH this morning and he said I had to stop treating him like a servant and 'start being a wife and mother'?!
We both work fulltime and have two DDs under three. I have a two hour commute to work and his work takes him all over the South Coast depending on what job he gets sent too. I thought we had a good arrangement set up - I get up two hours before I need to leave the house, get all the lunches ready, pack bags, give the babes their breakfasts, get them dressed. He then sometimes drops me off at the train station and then drops the girls off. I also get the bus or drop the girls off myself when he has to leave early on a job. He picks them up from nursery, gives them their tea and gets ours started for when I get home. (about 2 and a half hours in total). I get in around 7ish, finish giving the girls their bath, put them to bed, finish and dish up dinner, wash up, put away, have shower, finish anything off like folding up washing, putting it away etc - then think about parking my bum on the sofa - usually 9-9.30. He is extremely houseproud, where as I am to a point - the house it always tidy as it can be with two little ones creating a whirlwind of mess behind you as (try) to clear up. (Leaving stuff out winds him up.) Anyway, he had yesterday off as holiday as we had someone coming round to fix the boiler, and took it on himself to clean the house from top to bottom. (The girls still went to nursery.) Don't get me wrong, the house did look fantastic and tidy but if I had a day off the last thing I'd want to do is spend all day cleaning and then obviously get all resentfull about doing it?! When I have anytime off he comes home and asks me what I've been doing with my day with regards to housework which drives me nuts. If he's spent his day off playing his xbox I wouldn't have minded as everyone is entitled to time-out and time-off? Am I missing the point here?