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Ex has moved on and I feel so low

30 replies

Sojealous · 14/11/2016 22:20

DH and I separated about a year ago. He had run up huge debts through business and was drinking so much because of the stress and it was all awful.
From the start he has wanted to repair things but I insisted the debts were got under control and he stopped denying and running away from them. I could not look at relationship til that was done and still not done. He did keep hoping but then gave up,
Has moved in with someone else (to her house as he has nothing) and just told me is going to Dubai for New Year. She clearly has money so the debts don't bother her.
I knew the relationship was over but I feel so insanely jealous. I am lying in bed sobbing. I have nothing, my parents have to pay my rent as I have so much debt and he gets to live in lovely house happily with his new lady and life is good for him.
It's not I don't want him to be happy,
It just makes me so upset he can just walk away and start again and has fallen on his feet. Jealousy is horrible but that's just what I am....

OP posts:
Sojealous · 15/11/2016 11:50

ouriana that made me smile!
I am indeed going to focus on myself. I think that does sum him up - an expensive trip for him is more important than his children....
I feel like a teenager crying over first love,
acceptance will come I'm sure. He is a nob so why oh why am I wasting energy like this.

OP posts:
HappyJanuary · 15/11/2016 20:29

Just to say - when he pops in he's keeping up appearances.

He's showing you his best side so you miss him and begin doubting yourself and regretting past decisions; he's essentially telling you you made a big mistake.

He's bragging about his life to figuratively stick two fingers up at you : 'thank god you dumped me, my life is so much better now'.

I know, because I've got one the same. Smile and nod. Don't show him you care or are jealous, don't give him the satisfaction. Be dignified. The truth isn't as rosy as he paints it.

Shayelle · 15/11/2016 20:35

He sounds like a spiteful arse, twisting the knife. You dont need to hear that kind of spite 'to live in luxury'. What an arsehole!!!! Hope you start feeling a bit better soon op completely understand why you feel so upset by his shit Flowers

Dozer · 15/11/2016 20:37

Why host him for access? He should take the DC out or to his new gf's house: inject some reality into his world.

Is he paying maintenance?

His new situation is initially a far easier option than working to get himself out of debt and seeking to win you back: he may well have lied to his new gf. At any time she might get pissed off about him cocklodging.

KarmaNoMore · 15/11/2016 20:49

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