MrsGlam,
You cannot help anyone who really does not want to be helped. You have also not helped him really by closing his betting account; another one could easily be opened and there are probably others already that you have no knowledge of. He really does have to face the consequences of his actions.
What that action also really only did for you was to give you a false sense of control; its enabling behaviour. Such enabling neither helps you or him.
If he wants to contact Gamcare he has to do that of his own volition; any coercion from you to do that will not work.
Where is your own real life support; you also need to talk to gamcare and today.
I am wondering if you know the full extent of his problem; I doubt it very much and what you have found here may be the tip of a bloody great iceberg.
The writing below is advice from Gamcare itself and I would urge you to follow it to the letter:-
"How can you support them?
Some dos:
Remember it is a complicated problem and gamblers cannot ‘just give up’
Let them know you are prepared to support them
Read through the information on the GamCare website about the sources of support available to them and to you
Talk to them about how their gambling affects you. They need to understand the consequences of their gambling and how it makes you feel. Try to avoid doing this when either of you are angry or emotional.
Think about what you want to say. It might help to write your feelings and thoughts down so that you are clear in your own mind.
Encourage them to talk openly with you
Work with them to establish firm boundaries
Limit the financial impact that gambling has on you. For example, you could separate your bank account and protect your own money.
Suggest to them that they call the National Gambling Helpline (Freephone 0808 8020 133 or via web chat on the NetLine)
If you believe that they may be thinking about harming themselves, they should seek professional help as soon as possible. Their GP could be the first point of contact.
Some don’ts:
Try not to bail them out with loans or cover their gambling losses for them. This may only prolong the problem - they need to be responsible for the consequences for their gambling.
If the gambler isn’t ready to stop or has a lapse, don’t blame yourself – only they can be in charge of their recovery.
You can respond to requests for financial ‘bailouts’ with an answer that contains these messages: “I care about you and I don’t want you to suffer” or “I’m saying ‘no’ for your own good.”
Try not to issue ultimatums. These are rarely effective as they can often increase the sense of guilt and shame a gambler feels about their behaviour.
Do not trust them with money until the dependency is broken. If they agree, it may be helpful to manage their money for a short period.
Do not condemn them, as this is unhelpful and may drive them back to gambling. However, setting firm and fair boundaries to their behaviour is constructive.
It is hard to leave and I can appreciate why you feel you cannot leave but he is now really dragging you down with him.