Court ordered contact DV

[Chirstmascake1]

Hi, can I ask, what are your experiences of court ordered contact where there's been dv to mum, (a couple of police call outs on record) (narcissistic Pd imo)

Is there a court order in place? If so, what does it stipulate with regard to contact?

No order. We do it informally but I ancitipatr he will ask for more soon

How long have you been separated?

How old are dc? Was any action taken against him and/or did the police/social services or other agency follow up after the call outs?

How often do the dc see him, do they stay overnight, and how are drop offs and pick ups arranged?

What makes you suspect he'll want more than your current arrangement?

1 year, DD 2.5. 1 day at weekend. Organised ad hoc. Recent communications from him ...

No experience of a court ordered contact, plenty with a narc. If you want things set in stone and no debate then perhaps it's the right way to go if you want to limit communications, what do you want out of the situation?

They gave him 50:50 with a 2 and 3 year old. He had arrests on his record and I had been heard at MARAC 5 times.

horray Omg I can't believe that!!!! Haven't the courts changed a bit recently with some of the recent headline cases? Have you fought it?

Social gave him unsupervised every other weekend for a year whilst on tag before his house was raided by police (haven't been told why) and caught with drugs (haven't been told what)

Record for domestic violence and custodial sentence for armed robbery.

The system is shite.

Surely in these circumstances (mine aren't that bad!) it's better to just move away??

Hi Christmas. I fought it as best I could - but he used THE most expensive solicitors in the UK and I had to use a legal aid firm.....Once it is in the Court system you can't move away without consent. Will your ex demand 50:50 do you think? What do you think he is looking for?