Husband wants his ears pierced

[welshgirlcharlotte]

Thoughts?

Ladies and gents - thanks for all the comments, for those who have asked dh is good looking mainstream kinda guy if that makes sense. He is relatively senior in finance. I don't think his works will be a problem as there are people from all walks of life working there - he would like to 'hide' his piercings as much as possible when in work - not sure how he could do this (not for the initial period after piercing anyhow)

Get him to go to a tattoo shop to get it done so you don't have the Claire's accessories image in your mind

I don't know what I would think about it, I did laugh and I would laugh I'm afraid but I am not sure I would put them off doing it by being mean... does he say why he wants it? Lifelong dream or wants an image change? Some people get into tattoos and piercings after seeing something they feel would make them feel good. We don't usually expect this of men in society, we expect them to want to try to fit in with a certain image

DH has one ear pierced. He was diagnosed with cancer and would be in hospital initially for at least a fortnight: his first reaction was to say, good, I can finally have my ear pierced, because i will be off work for long enough for it to bed in and not need a stud all the time. He works in a very traditional environment and would never wear an earring at work.

In the circumstances, I didn't have the heart to complain.

how very silly

Nasty and yuk

Ho, this is how Bruce Jenner started. Earrings. Now look. Hmm

Lyn

Urgh posting fail. I meant ltb obviously

Yuk what a turn-off.
He'll look like an old twat (IMO).

I wouldnt be bothered tbh. Unless he's accessorising with leather trousers and cowboy boots too

Is it his lobes?
Or another part of his ear?

he would like to 'hide' his piercings as much as possible when in work
Maybe he'll let his hair grow down long enough to cover them?

My bf was saying he'd like one ear pierced. When we were in town we passed a jeweller's and on the spur of the moment I dragged him in to see how much it would cost. When actually put on the spot he was suddenly not in such a rush to get it done.

Get him a clip on mini hoop or magnetic stud to experiment with. He can play about and see if the look fits with his ideal.
Perhaps invest in some kitten heels too if this is the beginning of a bigger change in appearance...

Ooh...I had no idea men with piercings were so dodgy in MN terms. My DH has a bunch of piercings and always has done. He's in his forties now. Surely in this day and age we're past pearl clutching about that?

If your DH has always had a bunch of piercings then I'm guessing you don't mind them on blokes and got together with him regardless? For those of us who are married/in partnerships with men who don't them and who announce in their forties they want their ears pierced then it's totally different - no pearl clutching involved esp as earrings on men look grim

my lovely handsome beardy DH has his ears pierced, I think it looks sexy especially when he wears his gold hoops (small not pirate style) he is ridiculous about them at work though and will only wear one small stud despite me saying its silly cos everyone who might be at all interested can see that they are both done.

eccles our DHs sound similar!

Eccles - sexy bearded earring wearing husband high five!

Surely in this day and age we're past pearl clutching about that?

Not so much pearl clutching as being manipulating or controlling their partners. Double standards as a man coming on here doing this to a woman would be crucified.

Joysmum

Even if he's a rock god, I wouldn't want to be seen out and about with any man who wears a matching pair of earrings so for my taste it's left ear only with a discreet (as in tiny) platinum stud for work and smart occasions and a dangly silver or platinum ankh for casual wear.

I am subscribed to Man Who Has Everything on Facebook - a satire which takes the kind of comments people often make about women, but applies them to men, revealing the sexism for those who couldn't see it. Have to admit that some of these comments wouldn't look out of place on that feed

Nothing to do with sexism and everything to do with personal preference. I don't like tattoos on women but don't mind one small one on a bloke's arm for example, I don't like multiple piercings on either sex, and don't like highlights on men but a few on women are fine. That's my preference - don't try and make it out to be an -ism when that -ism doesn't exist.

My personal preference is to see it as sexism when a particular sex is "meant" or "expected" to do or wear particular things. I fully understand it if others prefer to see it differently.

Excellent - glad you understand the difference.