Unmatched three times in the past week after agreed a date!

[TessMcNess]

Just that really - what the hell is wrong with men?!?

The pattern was almost identical - chat on Tinder, move to text or WhatsApp, arrange a date for the weekend, both say we're looking forward to it and then Boom - radio silence and unmatched.

Why, just why?

I did wonder if there was some stupid game going round about getting as many women suckered in but I've decided they are all just twats.

All dating apps deleted and I've signed off from this game.

Good luck to those on the OLD thread - you're made of stronger stuff than I am.

Totally agree, it's best to just come off it sometimes. Clear your head, have some you time. As someone else said, I don't think this time of year is best to start dating either, id give it a couple of months. Sometimes when yon re join though, it's still the same old twats on there that messed you around the last time lol. The majority of men on there (and probably women too) have joined tinder or whatever for their own reasons and are not necessarily looking to date/start a relationship etc. Some are just bored and it's something to do for them. There are some genuine ones though, just takes time to sort through the losers until you find a decent dude lol.

Take sometime out, enjoy your own company and start looking forward to xmas with your family and friends. You never know, you might bump into mr right in ASDA next week and meet someone that old fashioned way - i.e. Not o.l.d lol xx

It's "sauce for the goose" thought, isn't it, Naze because if you ever go on the dating thread here on MN and almost anywhere that gives advice on OLD, they all say that women should multi date and talk so that they aren't over investing or putting all their eggs in one basket. So if that's what women are doing (and based on the MN dating thread, they are all doing that) I see no reason why the men shouldn't either (although personally, I couldn't).

Shatner I agree there is lots of talk about multidating, but I'm on that thread and it is mixed. When I've met someone, and there are possible future dates, I only contact others to say I won't be sending messages anymore. I like to treat people how I'd like to be treated myself.

Tess I just think you had an unlucky run and after a break you may have a very different experience.

Thank you lilac, I hope you are right.

I agree with your philosophy, I am completely accepting of talking to multiple people, I have no problem with that. But when dates are arranged I expect to be treated as I would treat others, as you said.

Oh well, lesson learned. Their loss!

Maybe I'll join you on the dating thread after Christmas - if you're still on there

The ones who disappear st the weekend are married/attached I'm pretty sure

Tess may well see you. I'm staying on until I think I'm in a stable relationship or unless I'm having a break. It's good to hear about other experiences good and bad. Makes me feel less on my own trying to find someone to enjoy life with.

The man I'm seeing is a bit insecure following OLD for few years. So men can get worn down with it too. I'm hoping he can trust as else it may end

Yes Lilac, it does wear you down. It's making me cynical and suspicious of motives, and that's not me at all.

What's your opinion on this - one who has blanked me all week has contacted me asking how I am. The 'date' was supposed to be tomorrow. I think he's been blown out by someone else and I'm his fallback option. My friend - in LTR, no idea about OLD - thinks that once the date was arranged he felt there was no need to contact me until we met. I'm not comfortable with that; he's ignored me for over a week so am tempted to ignore his message.

What do you think?

Trust your instinct - ignore!!!! I dipped my toe into online dating years ago before I met my DH. I met a guy for coffee, then we met for drinks and he was lovely (I thought). He asked me to the cinema two nights later and told me he would text to confirm.....then, nothing!! He wouldn't answer my texts or my calls. I was very firmly ghosted. It put me off OLD for life but luckily I met DH just months later. Men can be very strange (to put it kindly).

Thanks lastgirl, I think I will do just that.