Can you think of a valid reason...

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why my PILs want DS to call them by their first names?

Does anyone else think that this is weird?

What harm is there in that?

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Maybe being called Grandma and Grandpa makes them feel old and they're not comfortable with it?

Can't see any harm in it either.

my mil insisted my kids call her nana first name, but exh always called her by her name even as a kid

I know some children who call their parents by their first names. Also my mil has grannie .... (her name)

Think its the feeling old thing, I have some friends in their early forties, who have just had their first GC. They insit they will be called by their names. Say nan/gran etc sounds too old.

also forgot to add, ex fil, who is no hasnt been with ex mil for over 40 yrs, but is a die hard hippy, also refused to let the kids call him anything but his first name, because he sid it made him feel old

he's in his 70's lol

We sometimes call our parents by their first names and dp thinks its really weird and actually his mum would prefer if I called her grandma Daphne. I don't needless to say, I call her Daphne.

that doesnt make sense, ignore the "is no"!

Or mum she actually wanted me to call her mum. Sorry this is a digression from the op, forgive me

My grandfather apparently felt old too and they all settled for Papa. My neighbour's gran was called Za Za but she was very active and ungranlike (built them cool stuff in the garden!)

I dont let my children call any adults by their first names, it has to be Mrs this or Mr that, auntie so and so, unless the adult tells them to use their first name. How ever i am not happy for them to adress family members by thier first names, and NEVER parents or grandparents.
They addressed my Dps parents as Mr and Mrs so and so until told by DPs mother please call me xxx, but i still dont like it.
Im 35 and still call my great aunt and uncle aunt xxx and uncle xxx, my mom is 62 and she still addresses them as aunt and uncle as well.

DP is a bit upset as DS won't have a special name for his folks.

It came out of the blue so it has took us by surprise. They live in Oz for 10 months of the year so aren't around much - it just feels that they have distanced themselves even more by wanting to be called by their first names.

I think DP thinks that by calling them Grandad/Grandma or whatever, then that maintains a level of closeness when they are so far away.

I couldn't care less. They can do as they please.

They are both 60-ish.

That isn't old but surely when you get to that age and your children are 30-ish, you can get your head around the fact that you may have grandchildren soon?

I think, that if I wanted to be called by a certain name/title, and this request was repeatedly ignored, mocked or questioned, I would think it very rude.

My aunt wont let her granchildren call her nanna/granny/granma ect.....

My mom is nanna and MIL is grandma, DPs parents are xxx and xxx first names.

My dd calls my parents nana and grandad and her dads parents nana xx (her name) and grandad xx
No-body told her to do this btw she just does!
When I was a child my dads parents were nan and grandad and my mums I called by their name. I remember calling him grandad once and he told me off for it!
Some of my other cousins called them grandma etc but he told me that he felt it showed how close and how confortable I was with them that I had always called them by their names..it is after all what they are called!

i always called my dads mother nanny xxxx (surmane) but my mums mum was just nan.

i called step grandparents by their first names BUT my dds have called their step grandad - grandad - simply as they saw more of him than their grandad iyswim. They call their step grandma by her first name.

they also have 'surrogate' grandparents as such that they call by their first names even though this couple are the same age as my and dh's parents.

If that is what they want - what is the problem??