Separating.

[jayisforjessica]

My DP and I are separating. It's amicable, thank goodness.

How are you feeling?

Guilty, mostly. Sad. Worried about how this is going to affect DS. Anxious about the fact that I'm currently pregnant with twins. But mostly guilty.

Why guilty?

What's the cause of the separation? Sorry to hear you're going through this while pregnant but good that it's amicable.

Guilty, because it was my fault. I fell for someone else. I kissed someone else. And then, because I was trying to be honest, I told him about the kiss.

We've talked it out, and agreed that separating is the best path for us at this stage.

Why do you think you fell for someone else? Are you leaving for that someone?

The only thing that'll help you with your guilt is establishing that you are separating for the right reasons and that, fundamentally, your relationship probably can't and won't go the distance.

Have you considered trying counselling together to get past the infidelity?

Our relationship was... comfortable. But there was no passion, no fire, not really. We were going through the motions. DP agrees with me.

I am not leaving for her, but I think I am going to pursue a relationship with her. As in, I'm not moving him out and moving her straight in. All we've done is kiss, and that only one time. We'll be taking it slow.

We did think about counselling, but DP made the point that all the talking in the world won't change the fact that I fell for someone else.

Speaking from experience - it is best to give yourself a long time before starting a new relationship. it will devastate your ex that you have moved on so quick and it is unlikely to work out anyway.

Oh kiss was with a her! I have a friend who went through a very similar situation. She's never looked back and is so, so happy. As is her wonderful DS.

I hope you can get through this with minimal upset. How old is DS?

Interesting that your partner agrees that your relationship was flat, will make this process much smoother I think.

DS is 12, and knows her well. We've been friends a long time.

Well now I'm morbidly wondering what that comment said.

User has been trolling all over the place.

Becareful OP the grass is rarely greener on the other side.

Just take things slowly.