How to convince a dh we need a baby no3?

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I'm so broody it's scary but DH not interested (in babies not sex LOL). I've only started having these feelings for a few months as my youngest has got easier (just turned 2) so DH was pretty surprised when I told him. I can't help thinking he just needs to adjust from me being in tears last year at a false alarm to be being in tears now about not having the chance (he hasn't seen me cry about it himself yet).
Help me build up a database of convincing arguments please!

I persuaded DP that it would probably take many months of frantic and frequent sex to conceive a dc3. He was convinced.

(he then felt a little cheated when we conceived in the first month but that's by the by...)

LOL I'm waiting for the right time to remind my dh that pregnancy usually means huge boobs and rampant sexdrive on my part!
Hoping if he gets a new job/flexible working this year the whole idea may seem less scary to him.

make sure he avoids my house at all costs - that will not help your argument one jot!

I'm trying to convince dh to go for no2 (ds is 2.6) he thinks I am being really selfish as he thinks 1 is enough.

Tell him that you only believe that sex is for procreational reasons (not recreational)

That should do it!

Nogoes, is your DP an only child? My DH is one of 2 and I'm one of 3 so I think that might be a factor here (maybe fear of becoming his dad who never handled the stress of just 2 kids well).

Er, my very 'rational' argument went as follows: "You see, we had ds1 and ds2 so close together and it was all so chaotic, I feel I need another baby so I can do it all PROPERLY this time."
DH fell about laughing.
But we do have a ds3...

That's EXACTLY how I feel Porpoise! We both resented our youngest for arriving too soon and we've hated the last 3yrs (eldest was traumatic too). But now it's over I feel strong enough to do it properly. And now that I'm listening to my body I can hear it hammering for a baby every month!

I have been told (obstetrician) that after this one I cant have anymore I have accepted that and will be v. grateful for the two Ive got. Although I do sympathise Buckets.

nogoes, tell your dh as an only child myself i wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.... it's miserable and lonely and he's being the selfish one for not allowing your ds to have a little brother or sister

LOL Buckets! Delighted to hear I'm not alone. Dh thought I was off my head.
Have to say that, although I don't think I've done it at all properly third time, it has been fab - and very good for the older two.
Good luck with your convincing!

Hey congrats Liesel. I'm lucky that AFAIK it's just my dh's willpower in my way but I've told myself if it doesn't happen this year then it's not meant to be and I'll have to deal with it then and stop pushing him. Poor bugger.

he may change his mind. when i met DP he wasn't fussed on having any. then he said we'd have one, then he said 2, and i've just found out i'm expecting No2!!

Buckets, no dh is one of three but I think he is stressed at work and thinks another one will just add to the problem. I am planning on spending the next few months organising the house and finances and then we will go for it with or without his backing . Well he knows that I am not on the pill and it takes two to tango as they say.....

Seriously I would never actually trick him into another baby I think that is wrong. Come the summer and the blue skies I just think he will be able to see things in a more positive light.

think your dh is being the rassional one tbh.

You say your youngest has just got easier, is it possible that you've just "forgotten" what it was like when he was so difficult, and the traumatic time you had with him?

Are you prepared for things to go back to the way they were when your youngest was born? There are no guarantees that this next baby would be any easier.

I know what you mean Nogoes, we've just run out of condoms and I'm finding it really hard to psyche myself up to buy more! If he's that bothered he could always get a vasectomy and I'd just have to lump it then. Unless that happens I can only assume he's convinceable..

Wannabe, I know babies are hellish full stop and I always said I'd have 3 if I didn't have to do the whole pregnancy and baby thing. I never thought I would get over it and feel strong enough but now that I do, I can see it's such a short period in the grand scheme of things, worth the hardships.