So Ross from Friends was abusive.

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The character of Ross NOT the actor who played him. I know it was only a TV show but there are some pretty interesting points here.

And all put together in one place makes me realise Ross was pretty abusive.

www.redonline.co.uk/reviews/what-to-watch-tonight/this-fan-theory-about-ross-and-ben-from-friends-is-really-sad

One point thats been left off that list is that he was the Golden Child growing up. (anyone who has watched the show will remember his parents his mum especially favouring him over Monica. This may have fostered a sense of entitlement.

He was also controlling or tried to be when he found out about Monicas relationship with Chandler.

Totally! At the beginning I fancied Ross - I like tall men, sciency nerdy types etc. By the end I HATED him, such a needy, controlling, hypocritical TWAT! And the episodes where he had a pet monkey were beyond irritating.

It's not the "on a break" thing, that doesn't bother me, it's all the other awful manipulative and selfish behaviour. The relationship with his ex and son was shocking. And the whole Emily storyline had me cringing myself inside out.

Yes he's fictional but it is interesting that they made one of the characters this "Mr Sweet & Inoffensive, actually a massive dick" type. I wonder if he was based on a real person one of the writers knew. We've all met them!

All the blokes in Friends were misogynistic pricks if you look back on it. Chandler put beautiful women on a pedestal yet treated Janice like shit, while Joey was just a giant penis on legs.

But you can't deny the brilliance of "1 Yemen Road, Yemen."
Or "Over the line? You're so far past the line that you can't even see the line! The line is a dot to you!"

They were all bad but so so good too. Fond memories always.

Ross was very unpleasant, but he also had a shit deal handed to him when he left college.

He married his college sweetheart, only to get dumped when she had an affair with her best friend from the gym. They then raise his son together and he barely gets a look in because he's not with Carol anymore.

But none of that excuses how shit he was to Rachel. He didn't like her having male friends, he got insanely jealous when she had sex dreams about Joey and Chandler, he didn't like her being with anyone else (Paolo) even though it was perfectly okay for him to be with Julie.

He didn't like her job, he came to events with her and embarrassed her by falling asleep in front of all her co-workers. He showed up at her office to "mark his territory". He cheated on her with Chloe (they weren't on a break, she wanted to get back with him and she said okay, but got jealous of her speaking to Mark and went behind her back).

Even when they had Emma, he didn't like them having a male nanny, got jealous when she met another man at a bar (even though they weren't together) and didn't even like her living with Joey.

I realise I've thought about this way too much, but loads of my friends used to want a relationship like Ross and Rachel and failed to see how badly he treated her.

Give me Chandler any day

Yes...definitely Chandler, if you had to pick out of the three. But otherwise, Mike who married Phoebe. He was delish.

SpringerS Thanks, I didn't realise that (Its been such a long time since I watched them all haha!)

He's still a dick though

This thread shows how much fiction can influence people.

it's made up. Not real.

Really? I thought it was a documntary!

This thread shows how much fiction can influence people

Too right

Like when some people actually went to a womens prison in Manchester one day demanding that woman from a soap be let out

Like when some people actually went to a womens prison in Manchester one day demanding that woman from a soap be let out

What?!

YY pictish and in a flashback episode Chandler was shown to be very disdainful of Monica when she was overweight.

But then in another flashback Thanksgiving ep after shed lost the weight his eyes were out on stalks.

Then she accidentally drops a knife and severs his toe.

That was soooo retconned. Until London, there had never been an inkling of past attraction.

Errmm i did put in my OP that its only a TV show.

But ive seen many threads on this board about men who exhibit one or more of these behaviours.

Its just that in Ross they are all amalgamated into one man for TV

No, no, no! Don't do it to Ross!! I refuse to believe it.

Of course fiction influenced people. Much of it is based on real life!

Lots of women can identify with Rachel / Monica / Bridget Jones / Carrie Bradshaw / Hannah Horvath. Even Patsy Stone!

Wasn't the hug when Monica was in the towel pre-London?

IWantThePainToStop yeh it was character from Corrie (now deceased) who got locked up for fraud after she got conned by some bloke. Some people actually thought it was real and even Tony Blair (because he was PM at the time) got asked to intervene if I remember right. Seriously FFS

That's hilarious, Caifornia! Well, half hilarious and half jaw droppingly terrifying...

cocoabuttersosoft yeh it's terrifying alright I mean these are supposedly grown adults!!! I remember seeing it on TV where this quite large group had banners and placards etc and didn't even go away when the prison staff went out to tell them she wasn't really there

You don't get that with the Archers.