Just wanting some other peoples views on this as I would like to know if I am overreacting / being over sensitive.
I helped my friend out a while ago, let her stay at mine for 6 week told her not to worry about paying me anything as I thought it was a nice friend thing to do. Friend wasn't homeless or anything, it was due to work circumstances & it meant that journey to & from work was easier as it saved her lots of hassle travelling & it cut her driving time a lot. Friend paid for her own food etc, which was fine. I owed friend £20 as borrowed it at beginning of month. I forgot about the £20 I owed her ( i have always paid her back when I said I would on previous occasions when journey out worked out I owed her small amounts of money etc ) Towards the end of her stay she asked me for the £20 back... which I gave her... it just felt a bit odd handing her the £20 when I had allowed her to stay in my home for 6 weeks & pay nothing towards it - bearing in mind I previously said she could stay & not pay anything. Roles reversed if I was staying at hers rent free and I owed her £20 I would have said no keep the £20 as you've helped me out by letting me stay at yours. Bearing in mind she actually benefited money wise by staying at mine by not paying her usual petrol costs & monthly board costs to her parents. Whilst said friend was staying at mine on several occasions she disobeyed my instructions re house safety related issues, nothing major, but I have OCD & it's something that most people would overlook but for me it's a huge deal & I told her so & she still did it regardless. We have now been invited to a friends gathering which is local to me & said friend has said that unless she can stay at mine she can't go due to taxi costs because she won't be able to drive due to drinking. Thing is I know that friend has more than average savings in her bank she's just too tight to pay for taxi which would cost about £80. I understand that no one likes to pay outrageous costs for taxis but it's the fact that she disobeyed my house instructions & I thought that asking for the £20 back when she saved money by staying at mine for 6 weeks previously was quite cheeky. I just thought that telling me to keep the £20 would have been a nice gesture. I'm not hard up for £20, it's the thought & gesture that counts, I thought that it would have been a nice kind gesture to do taking into consideration that I had just kindly let her stay with no costs involved. Friend is now saying that unless she can stay at mine she can't attend the party. After she disobeyed my home safety instructions I don't want her staying over anymore. I feel a bit childish writing this but I feel a little bit like she is taking the piss. Am I being unreasonable thinking this?