So, I have been going out with my DP for about 6 months. He is the loveliest man I have ever met. Thoughtful, kind, sexy, great with my little boy. Everything I ever wanted basically.
Anyway, I made the absolutely foolish mistake of checking the texts on his phone. I knew it was a bad idea when I was doing it. He works in a sales type role and has contact with a lot of different people in the workplace who he has to be charming to. Anyway, every so often he gets a text off this girl. Nothing bad but I know she is coming on to him. He went skiing recently and she wrote 'Can you squeeze me into your suitcase?'. Then when he got back back she wrote 'Hi, How are you. How was skiing?' and I found that she had rung him up at midnight and was on the phone to him for 20 mins. This morning I found a text from her saying 'Lots and lots and lots of snow. Let's go and play out in it.' As far as I can see he has not replied or encouraged her that I know about but it is winding me up into oblivion. My DP has history of attracting mental women who HURL themselves at him. I am the complete polar opposite to this and you would never get me asking him to play out in the snow. I am 32 after all. My problem is that a) I don't know why he hasn't told me about this (although I am thinking it is because he knows I am slightly 'volatile' to say the least) and b) do you think I should ask him about it.
Early on in our relationship he looked at my phone so at least he has already done it and I don't think he would see it as a complete breech of trust. I have had some pretty awful relationships in the past and I find the whole idea of a new relationship really scary and he knows this.
Come on ladies. Words of wisdom please before I track this woman down and throttle her.
Thanks!