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Finally cut the cord and almost better than ok!

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roarfeckingroar · 01/11/2016 14:27

Some of you wonderful people might remember my previous threads. I was with a 'man' who regularly shouted at and insulted me when drunk, definitely had the makings of a drink problem, text my Dad abuse about what a terrible slut whore I am, broke a thousand promises and lied to me and lost all interest in sex despite both being in mid-20s with no health issues. Oh and drunkenly crashed my car, had us kicked out of a shared flat, was horrendous with money, many other things.

I was told to cut my losses by the MN massive and given lots of support. I finally moved out 3 weeks ago and felt utterly bereft at the loss of someone who - when not being a twat - was my best friend. I had another thread then whining and was once again given great support so thank you.

Being an idiot I paid for another month on the flat we used to share as he hadn't found anywhere to go and the tenancy ended yesterday, I finally cleared out the last few belongings of mine after a couple of glasses of wine for courage and said goodbye to that chapter that started so wonderfully but ended with me crying almost daily and feeling ugly and invisible.

But today I woke up feeling brilliant. Calm and free and finally back in control. I've been seeing an awesome new personal trainer over the past two weeks and am again tomorrow evening. My friends have seriously rallied around and work is going well. I'm still only 28 and there is so much future without a miserable, negative, alcoholic child holding me back. I even have a date this evening, although I've no interest in falling into another relationship for a long time.

It's all exciting and I thought it would take so much longer to get to this place. I just wanted to update and say thank you Flowers for giving me the strength and pointing out that yes, he's a monumental thundercunt and I can and will do better.

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AnyFucker · 03/11/2016 18:26

Plenty of time before Xmas to plan stuff and keep busy

roarfeckingroar · 03/11/2016 21:13

Going home early. Old colleague tried to kiss me and seemed offended and annoyed when I said no. Because of course the fact I'm not the 'property' of another man and he bought us a couple of drinks and olives that means I'm open to any bloody chancer.

Thanks for support earlier. I know this sadness too shall pass. I made the right decision and the actions of these utter thundercunts aren't my fault.

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AnyFucker · 03/11/2016 21:26

Amen

roarfeckingroar · 03/11/2016 21:30

It's horrendous. The amount of male acquaintances who have been in touch 'out of the blue' since news I'm single has spread. Just fuck off.
Sorry. Venting to you not to the ex. Thank you for all your kindness.

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theansweris42 · 03/11/2016 21:39

Yeah! Don't contact him. You're worth ten of him.

fc301 · 03/11/2016 21:53

But surely you must be on the lookout for someone to fill your thundercunt vacancy? 😂

AnyFucker · 03/11/2016 22:01

I heard this can happen, roar

Predatory men sniffing around newly single women like they think you must be desperate for cock. Even pathetic little cocks.

roarfeckingroar · 03/11/2016 22:39

So right AF. Surprisingly or not, I have as little interest in their shit conversation and tiny prawn as I did last time I was single.

Home now with make up off and jo malone candle flickering. Time to sleep. Again, a thousand thank yous.

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roarfeckingroar · 03/11/2016 22:41

ROAR :-) x

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AnyFucker · 03/11/2016 22:42

Erk

roarfeckingroar · 07/11/2016 21:32

Third date with very beautiful man. Just so beautiful and smart and lovely.

So so lovely. I'm going to take it slowly and try to not jump on him.

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MsStricty · 07/11/2016 21:47

Why are you running so quickly into another relationship, roar?

Do you find it difficult to be by yourself?

glassspider · 09/11/2016 18:37

You've made me smile! Yay go you!!!!!

glassspider · 09/11/2016 18:39

Sorry- that last post was in response to your first post OP!

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