Feel let down

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I've been seeing a man for 18 months now.. Lovely and get on really well. The only downside is his ex. He has two kids with her. He splits 50/50 custody with her all good he get me on ok with her .
But he has been know to still do family things with her and kids. Trips out, meal here and there. All makes me feel uneasy now the latest he has been visti get her house he says to look after kids he lives ten mins down the road. I'm not too happy with this what do you all think ?

Yes Naze thanks for that

Meep yep I agree wholeheartedly with you [smile
But how about If he is round at the family house on a daily basis .. How about if he is going out on meals where she is there with old joint friends...
I won't win here..... But you know the old saying walk a mile in my shoes

Other people's opinions on this aren't really going to help you. He's not doing anything wrong and it works for him and his DC. He's absolutely right to put that first.

But it doesn't work for you. It makes you uncomfortable. Feeling that way is not unreasonable (your feelings are your feelings), but asking him to change what he does would be unreasonable.

You have a choice to make - either you can live with this or you can't. If you can, great. If you can't, then you need to let him go. But whatever you do, don't pretend (to either yourself or him) that you can live with it if deep down you will be seething with resentment and wishing he would change.

Sometimes, unfortunately, it's the little things that make two people incompatible