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What irrating habits does your dp/dh have that drive you up the wall?

29 replies

Upsadaisy · 11/02/2007 09:38

I'm a patient sort of person but my dp's irratating habits just build up and drive me up the wall!!! Heres a list of a few

1, Picking his nose anytime anywere (it's like he's going caving when he gets started)

2, Is heavy handed.....he brakes anything and everything, but genuine accidents (drives me madddddd, he comes out with 'Well they don't make things like they used to')

3, Promises to fix broken things but never gets round to it....grrrrrrrrr.

4, Comes out with things like i've helped you do the ironing/washing/ helped you put the kids to bed etccc (it's our ironing!!!! our washing our kids!!!!)

5, When anything goes missing or gets broken, he's no part in it its everyone else....then months later he might say oh i think i might of put it in the bin.

7, he swears his head off. We've had countless rows about swearing in front oof the kids.

8, He'll come in and turn the tele over right in the middle of a program I'm watching without asking (it soons get turned back, but why do it why not ask???)

9, When i'm ill he's as thoughtful as a pig but naturally when he's bad its another story

10, He moans that when I go to cook something as he says it makes a mess creating pots (what!!!!!! we have to eat)

So far this morning my watch was broken, though he did fix it, he's lost my memory stick, he's been swearing and raking his nose is an understatement and as I'm full of cold he's been an insensitive git and as I leaned over to give him goodbye kiss (just dropped him off at work) he had his finger up his nose!!!!!!!!

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WigWamBam · 11/02/2007 09:55

Mine is a nag. Worse than any woman.

Plus when he and dd are left alone, it's like two 5 year olds squabbling instead of one five year old and one adult.

And he won't stand up to his mother.

moondog · 11/02/2007 09:57

Oh dear Upsadaisy.
He sounds awful.

Mine is excessively tidy-verging on obsessive.

Also works too hard.

Not too bad really.

filthymindedvixen · 11/02/2007 10:14

Always leaving wet towels on the bed - my side of the bed..

Would spend all day saturday shooting aliens if he could get away with it.

is incapable of seeing any mess/rubbish etc ever

Cannot find anything ever, even if it is right in front of him. Think that's just a bloke thing though tbh.

Part from that, he's pretty lovely

Pavlovthecat · 11/02/2007 10:28

Of course, as I am about to marry my DP, should not list everything, or else it would seem like I dislike the poor man, but to add to the list...

  1. Never makes the bed when he gets out of it.
  2. Never takes empty crisp packets etc from front room to kitchen bin, even when he picks up a cup next to it to make a drink, in the kitchen
  3. Changes or DD in the front room and leaves the dirty nappy on the floor (although it is often in a nappy bag, marginally better).
  4. Wears his shoes round the house. Constantly treading on my toes, tells me 'well then you should wear shoes and it would not hurt'. Arrrgh.
  5. Channel hops, turns tele over when I am watching something (a common one) without checking what I am watching. Even though he is usually on the computer too!
  6. Puts dirty washing in front of the washine machine to be washed (not in it, not in the washing basket). Oh and leaves dirty clothes on the floor next to the washing basket in the bathroom.
  7. Can't read a map. Would rather drive to Scotland than admit he took a wrong turning and turn the car round.
  8. Snores (I know, he cant help that one).
  9. Sleeps through our DD waking in the middle of the night, several times (she is 7 months old).
10. Puts glasses and saucepans that have just been washed, right side up so water collects, goes stagnant and has to be re-washed (should I complain, he does wash up sometimes?)

So, there, 10. I can name more than 10 good points though.

WideWebWitch · 11/02/2007 10:46

The only 2 things that drive me mad are

a) when he's ill he clutches his stomach and makes a moaning noise and it makes me want to shoot him to put him out of his misery. You know, with one of those pump action things.

b) HE DOESN'T EVER EVER CHANGE THE EFFING LOO ROLL AND IT'S DRIVING ME INSANE I AM FED UP OF BEING LOO ROLL BLOODY MONIOR.

But he very often does listen when I tell him this stuff so I supect the loo roll thing will be sorted in time. And in most other ways he's fantastic so I can't complain really.

Carmenere · 11/02/2007 10:57

I have just recently come to the conclusion that my dp has vitually no appreciation of the aesthetic All he cares about is functionality. So that is why he conveniently ignores the fact that the livingroom is a complete tip(because we don't have enough bookshelves for his books) and why he maintains that he LIKES the manky burgundy bathroom suite with the brass taps and grey tiles.

I was brought up to live in pleasant suroundings and am finding it a bit difficult that he really couldn't care less and that looking after the house features NOWHERE on his list of priorities

Chandra · 11/02/2007 11:00

Forgetfulness and fear of confrontation.

margo1974 · 11/02/2007 11:26

my dh makes a funny noise in the back of his throat whilst eating (if it's something he enjoys) - He gets annoyed with me when I look at him and say "is that tasty?"

My dad does it too

I think it's a man thing

McDreamy · 11/02/2007 11:34

He's shortens words - place names peoples names etc and for some reason that really irritates me.

For example he will ask me if I want to go into Limmas rather than Limmasol, Chippers rather than Chippenham, shall we go for a coff rather than a coffee

VioletBaudelaire · 11/02/2007 11:39

His laugh is sometimes so loud that it makes me want to cry.
When the children were babies they seemed to be in a permanent state of startle reflex!

ElenyaTuesday · 11/02/2007 12:12

The one really irritating thing I can think of is his fixation with money-off vouchers. We once spent an hour (!!) driving around Cheltenham (a place I previously did not know well ) looking for Sainsburys because he had a money off voucher for petrol from there. I don't know how much petrol we used looking for the stupid place.

paulaplumpbottom · 11/02/2007 12:55

He doesn't think he needs to be looking at me to listen to me.

mummydear · 11/02/2007 13:06

Smoking !!! He doesnot do it in the house , but its the smell of it on his clothes .

themoon66 · 11/02/2007 13:17

Loudness and heavy-handedness mostly. Examples would be:

Accelerating the car by just ramming his foot to the floor so hard that the G-force temorarily irons the wrinkles from my face.

Sneezing and using some clever trick that involves putting his voice into it so that it comes out like a loud whooshing shout.

Laughing out loud and sudden so I jump out of my skin.

Shutting the dishwasher, tumble dryer, washing machine, kitchen doors etc by kicking with his foot. Lost count of how many times I've shown him that they close just as well with a gentle press of the hand. But, oh no... he has to really kick the poor washing machine to death. He broke the door off the dishwasher completely!

babywhiting · 11/02/2007 13:20

all i can say is my dp:

FARTS,TRUMPS, BLOWS OFF GASSES US OUT!!!

Whatever we all call it he does it anywhere its so annoying!!! he thinks its hilarious and now he gets the kids to pull his finger and they are all in hysterics with it!!!!!!!

MrsGordonRamsay · 11/02/2007 13:25

Does breathing count ??

Pavlovthecat · 11/02/2007 13:37

Pulaplumpbottom - I soooo agree. Make that no.11 for me. He says 'mm', 'yes', 'no', or more often than not no response at all, looking at something else (sport usually) and says he is listening!
It is infuriating !

wheresthehamster · 11/02/2007 13:41

Carmenere, our other halves are twins!

Apart from the many irritating habits/views/clothes etc dp has the one that is infuriating me at the moment is the way he 'hoovers' his food from his fork when eating. The noise is like something out of the elephant house.

Pavlovthecat · 11/02/2007 13:58

stays up until 1am, wakes me up to say goodnight

NadineBaggott · 11/02/2007 13:59

breathing

babywhiting · 11/02/2007 14:03

he calls me from wofk and hardly says a word then when i say gotta go kids need me ,he then babbles on about what he wanted to phone for in the first place.!!! arrrggghhh

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myhappytrio · 11/02/2007 19:37

phones and texts me all day long for nothing !!!
always wants to know where i am or what i'm doing.

joanna4 · 11/02/2007 20:52

Aw its bog all in the grand scheme of things but I will share it cos it drives me insane.
My hubby likes liquorice cuttings but when he has them he lines them up all uniformly on the chair arm- he isnt ocd or anything like that but it is something he feels he has to do.
On ocassion one of our dogs has come by and snaffled a few the effects of this ARE undesirable but still he continues his freaky habit.

brimfull · 11/02/2007 20:55

he does not shut cupboards or drawers,literally he seems to be incapable of it.

Also takes ages and ages to get out of the car,listens to the radio ,tkaes glasses of etc.etc. so annoying when ds is waiting eagerly for him at the door.