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DH is not a morning person

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moodyinthemorning · 11/02/2007 07:06

And it is driving me mad, to the point where some mornings I feel like packing up and walking out. In the week it's not so much of a problem as we both get up at the same time and I take the dc into the living room while he gets ready and goes- we barely speak.
The weekends are awful. I appreciate he is tired. He works hard and our dc have never been great sleepers. DS1 who is 3 is usually up at around 5. DS2 (11 months) wakes soon after. As soon a DH is woken he is in a foul mood and is really nasty to the children. I hate this-it make me hate him. He thinks he must be more tired than I am as he goes out to work and I don't. He convieniently overlooks the fact that I have been up for half of the night feeding DS2. I usually have around 4 hours broken sleep.

At the weekend we take it in turns to have a lie in. I still wake up with the children when it is my turn, until he is ready to get up but when he does he can be quite vicious with ds1. He shouts at him for waking him up and usually makes him cry. He stomps around shouting and swearing. This really upsets me. I usually cannot go back to sleep and I can't lie in bed thinking about him being moody with the children downstairs.

I don't know what to do, should I just accept that he is not a morning person and forget about my lie in and get up with the children to avoid the situation or do something about this? Yesterday morning we had a huge row about it and I told him that if he couldn't sort himself out that he should move out as early mornings are part of being a parent. Was I over reacting?

Sorry to have rambled but to finish I must say, I love my DH very much. He is a good husband and father. He loves me and his children more than anything. He is not a bad person- just not a morning person.

OP posts:
mamama · 11/02/2007 07:12

NOt sure I can help or offer any advice but {hug}

nearlyfourbob · 11/02/2007 07:13

If he's not a morning person then he needs to go to bed earlier. End of.

moodyinthemorning · 11/02/2007 07:15

We both go to bed early as we are so tired! We are usually in bed by 9!

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auntymandy · 11/02/2007 07:17

My DH isnt much good on a morning!!
I cant offer advice I'm afraid. I just get on with it and go to bed early!!!!

When he does get up with the boys,he does just that so when I get up I have so much to do, I feel behind all day, so in some respects its better to get up!!!!

Go make yourself a cuppa!!
xx

paulaplumpbottom · 11/02/2007 09:21

He shouldn't take it out on the kids. Ask him how he will feel when the are adults and they ask him why they were treated this way?

bandstand · 11/02/2007 09:24

would you prefer he just slept all morning? mine does.

edam · 11/02/2007 09:29

Blimey, I'm not a morning person either, but there's no way I'd treat ds like that. Your dh is being deeply, deeply selfish. You need to call him on this one. Paula's right.

TrinityRhino · 11/02/2007 09:35

me too bandstand

but he does have chronic tinnitus, insomnia and sleep apnoea (sp?)

so getting any kind of proper sleep is nigh on impossible

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