Name changed for this as I need to sort things out...
I am married, unhappily. I realised at the beginning of the year that I needed to leave, for my own sanity (husband belittles me, is an alcoholic and is pulling me down with him). However, we have several young children, so I can't just up sticks and leave. I found a job to gain some financial independence. I was doing well, mentally in a better place, and making plans to finally get out (husband has never been violent, but he has a temper - once I've said I'm going I will need to be out as I don't think he will take it well).
But, I've fallen for someone else. He is also married with children. I've told him my situation, I didn't know much about his though. I knew our "relationship" (if you can even call it that) wasn't anything deep or meaningful, however it transpires his wife works long hours and he's basically lonely. I'm not even sure he fancies me, I've just provided a means to an end. I've been so bloody stupid to get involved in something like this anyway, but I had at least comforted myself with the thought that someone found me attractive/desirable/worth a bit of effort. Now it seems I'm not even that. So, what the hell do I do to extricate myself from all this? I want to move forwards but feel like I've created a load of quicksand and now I'm sinking. Just to add, I work with this chap, so a pretty s**t situation all round. And yes, I'm sure I'll get some abuse coming my way, I expect that, but any practical and useful advice would be appreciated, thank you.