So it's Valentine's Day on Wednesday... anyone expecting red roses??!!!

[naturemum]

So... it's Valentine's Day on Wednesday... I love my DH to bits but (unfortunately) 'romance' was left at the door when my DS arrived 16 months ago. I have always given him a card with 'deep' and 'meaningful' message inside but this year Valentine's Day seems even more of a commercial scam for young and childless lovers!!!
It's crazy how our relationship has become so focused around our son and I hope that in time we do not become complacent with each other. After all when the kids are packed off in 20 years time we will be back to just us.
How has parenthood left your relationship? Does Valentines Day highlight the fact that we should make more of an effort with our spouses throughout the year?
Or are you expecting the 'Works' this week - candlelit dinner, red roses and chocolates?

Thought this might be fun to discuss!

No but something did come home in a screwed up tesco carrier bag and dH asked DD6 to go and hide it!

No I'm not expecting anything because I treated myself to rather a lot of stuff in January - new dress, shoes, jewellery, perfume and body lotion, make up...

A card will suffice. I'm not bothered about a big gift. I'd rather try and save the money this month to make up for last month's splurge!

I don't like cut roses very much,so I hope not to receive any,but I do like to get a hand-made card and a big kiss and and an even bigger hug

God no.
Have banned my dh from naff acts like this.
(Although your homemade card sounds lovely Tir.)

Sure, it's not about the presents (as nice as they are!) - but are we all too knackered for romance now we are Mums?...

How do you keep the spark in a relationship whilst you spend most of your time struggling to tidy up, change nappies and amuse your toddler!?

gawd no - will get a card altho' DH will be cooking (i asked him to so does that count?!)

We used to exchange cards and presents, then just cards...and today in Tesco's I was going to get a card, and then thought sod it, I feel past being forced to declare my emotions for him on a set date...so I didn't get him one.

Must discuss this with him before W.

I think when you're first together, Valentines is an excuse to make a grand gesture of love in some way. It just feels a bit fake now. I'd rather we did something special for us in our wedding anniversary, or each others birthdays or something.

I think you have to remember to actually say 'I still love you' as often as you can [even when you may not really feel like it]

We tell each other 'I love you' quite often and do manage to capture the odd moment together. He works 4 evenings a week so we don't get a lot of time alone together - bummer!