Some years ago i first came here (following Internet links whilst searching for solution to some of the realtionship's problems) and read numerous threads in which similar problems - cumulatively, not all at once - were described. The prevailing tone of the advice given seemed to be - the dp's behaviour is EA, the best / only thing is to leave. As I at the time I had already been in a bad and angry emotional state this advice might have given me the last push, so i left.
Felt good about it then! Blocked any attempts or hints of his to reconcile. He didn't seem to explicitly acknowledge that he was the root of the problem. But at the time it seemed to me so obvious that he was.
I suppose we were both just very set in our ways, opinionated and not communicating good in personal matters (hm, sounds like a recipe for desaster on its own already).
However, recently, i started wondering whether the advice given here was such a good one after all. After all, each person is different!
And now for various reasons I strongly regret not having fought harder, for having fallen so deep into this EA/LTB mode.
Probably, this post is just an attempt to shift the blame somewhat off my own shoulders :)